Did I say the right things

[dlb311]

Hi I have a question. I have posted before but just in case here is a summary of what I am going through

 

My ex broke up with me 4 months ago. We were together for two years. We were very serious. He was planning on moving in. I guess he got scared because two weeks before the was to finish moving the rest of his things in he broke things off. Saying he will probably regret this but needed to do his own thing. We tried being friends it was to hard for me. Then I missed him so I got back in touch with him. He says he still loves me and misses but doesn't know what his future is. I wrote him two weeks ago. Saying I think we were moving to fast and I think we should step and see what happened and see if casual dating gets us back or helps us decide to just leave it alone. He wrote back saying he misses me and wants to see me but does not want to lead me on. He needs to do his own thing right now.He doesn't know what the future holds for him and he hopes I am not confused by his words. And to call him so we could hang out this week or next.

 

I wrote him back saying I know he need his own time and I do too. That its not time to see each other and to call when or if he ever feels like it and I wished him my best. and that was it.

 

Did I say and do the right thing?

 

I know one day he is going to wake up and say I can't believe I let her go. We were so good together. We were happy. Until he say that moving in was really happening. I know we are young 22 and 23 so we should have waited longer. But sometimes you get caught up in your emotions.

 

Any advice.

[DerangedAngel]

If its anything like what my boyfriend and I have gone through as far as moving in together, its not you or your relationship. He's probably just got some kind of commitment phobia. With T, one day he wants me living with him right now! The next... its too fast! The next, I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WANT! STOP PRESSURING ME! So I do... until HE brings it up again. LOL. With my guy, I know he loves me, he's just torn, maybe scared of his own feelings or some messed up masculine emotion. I think you said the right things to him, and I would wait on him to come around. If he wants to be with you, if he really misses you, he'll let you know this. But I would say not to push anything. That usually tends to bring out the phobia and make them think about long-term commitment... marriage... monogomy... children... the F word (forever... ooooo ::shudders:: ) even if all this is not what you want as of yet! Their minds get carried away.