Sister used my photos on Craigslist for sexual purposes.

[doublescorpio]

Hi I have posted once before about how I invaded my sister's privacy because my family was concerned she was in an abusive relationship:

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t196545/

 

Things have moved on since, she is still with the guy but my family now formally knows about it. She came clean in several weeks ago, my family met the boy (I was not a part of it however) and they agree he is not the abusive type. But after not hearing from my sister for several days my mother asked me to log into my sister's msn to see where she might be. That is when I found something incredibly disturbing.

 

Apparently she has been creating fake email accounts (she has been doing this for a while now) and is talking to strangers over Craigslist, for sexual purposes, while dating the current boy. She is having intimate conversations with them and they are sending her sexual photos of themselves. I was worried that she may have actually met up with one of them and that is why my mother couldn't get ahold of her. However, a moment later I clicked on some messages and realized she has been sending these strangers MY photos. I am shaking because I am still so upset about this. I work in a respectable and high profile position in my city and if I were recognized it would be bad. She lives in a different city but it doesn't matter. I feel violated and I feel like she has put my safety at risk. I am also in a serious relationship and if my partner saw any of this he would most certainly think I was cheating on him, when in fact I have nothing to do with this.

 

Turns out my sister was fine, she was simply going on a short holiday with her boyfriend. I have not told anyone about what I found out. I have no idea how to handle the situation.

 

I am also horrified because my mother is giving my sister money to live on while she finds a job, and to find out she has been doing this all day and also is spending money on holidays with her boyfriend (as she cheats on him by having internet sex with other guys) and meanwhile me and my partner are working our butts off just to afford the necessities. My parents are also on hiatis financially for things they want because they are supporting her.

 

Of course I must deal with this somehow, but quite frankly no matter what she is done I am horrified about challenging my family into 'taking sides' as they will see it. I am also afraid to tell my partner, lest he hate her more than he currently does.

 

If anyone has any advice to offer, I would sincerely appreciate it.

[jerbear]

I think you should have a chat with your sister about her using your pictures. Those pictures are yours and not hers. This is the most direct way to take yourself out of this.

 

Regarding your parents supporting her, my opinion is that they do not know, are in denial, or being parents. Talking to your parents, as a daughter, may help.

[Mary3]

If your sister could closely read the rules of Craigslist : There is a $ 1,000 fine for impersonating with fake profiles and pics.

 

But this sounds more like the actions of a Sex Addict. If she truly is sending and receiving hoards of naked pics ( and thats just nasty ) then she needs help.

 

Dont get me wrong : Sex is good. Lots of sex is good. But mostly safer sex with your partner and not a bunch of strangers on Craigs list and others mentioned here.

 

Naked pics are risky but if your own bf sends you some or you send him some well thats a more calculated risk..If you must send at all..

[Boundary Problem]

Just because someone is a member of your family doesn't mean that you need to have contact with them.

 

How is talking to a liar about any topic - good use of your time?

[CarrieT]

I realize she is family, but you could press charges -- identity theft...