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is my stbx super insensitive?


stepka

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I think I know the answer to this already. Today is his birthday so he came over and took the kids to the movies and he took his new boyfriend with them. I was half expecting this already, but when he did it, I was still in shock--he brought the lover in to meet me! Now really, I'm pretty openminded, but a simple phone call to check and see if it would be okay would have been so much nicer, b/c what really burns me up about this is the total lack of respect. I have actually treated him pretty well over this whole mess, so it's not like he should even have any reason to be angry with me. I was holding off on filing, but now I think I'm not going to procrastinate any more.

 

Funny thing is, all of my life I've been told that I'm oversensitive--by the future x and also my mother, but since then I've come to the conclusion that both of them are undersensitive. Waaaay undersensitive. Well, just venting really. And wondering about the sanity of someone who would stay married to a man like that for 23 years.

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I think I know the answer to this already. Today is his birthday so he came over and took the kids to the movies and he took his new boyfriend with them. I was half expecting this already, but when he did it, I was still in shock--he brought the lover in to meet me! Now really, I'm pretty openminded, but a simple phone call to check and see if it would be okay would have been so much nicer, b/c what really burns me up about this is the total lack of respect. I have actually treated him pretty well over this whole mess, so it's not like he should even have any reason to be angry with me. I was holding off on filing, but now I think I'm not going to procrastinate any more.

 

Funny thing is, all of my life I've been told that I'm oversensitive--by the future x and also my mother, but since then I've come to the conclusion that both of them are undersensitive. Waaaay undersensitive. Well, just venting really. And wondering about the sanity of someone who would stay married to a man like that for 23 years.

 

I would say less insensitive more like insecure. He desperately looking for approval. And don't beat yourself up.

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