We are in a long distance marriage and I cheated

[katstraightlonghair]

Me and my husband have been married for about 2 years now, going long distance while waiting for his visa to come through to stay with me here in america. its been about a year now and he will be joining me soon in about 2 - 4 months. before we got married we were together for 3 years so that makes us 5 years together. we are both pretty young, mid 20's but when i met him i knew he was the one. now i cheated, with one person, we had sex twice. he comes over, do it and hang out for a while. not dating or anything like that. i dont know how i feel, i just wanted to express it out and let people comment. i dont have the urge to stop...and i know that makes me a devil...

[road]

kat

 

" i dont have the urge to stop"

 

So don't stop.

 

Though you need to tell your BH that you have cheated on him and are filing for a divorce.

 

Then dump the OM. He's not long term material. The cheat with you they will cheat on you.

[sin1cos1]

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I have been the one waiting for my visa to come through while my Hubby was in the states.

 

 

I think it's wrong of you to cheat unless your partner knows and is alright with it. I want to assume that he knows because otherwise you would be walking all over his feelings.

 

 

 

To hide something like that from your partner is plain dumb, selfish and ugly. But again, I do not know what boundaries you both have set for the relationship so I am not judging you.

 

 

But if you know that your husband would disapprove why not end it before playing around on him? His heart is not yours to play with.

[Space Ritual]

So let me get this straight....

 

Your Husband is "The One"...

 

Yet you cheat on him, don't want to stop and it makes you feel like the Devil?

 

Well I am so glad you've adjusted to America so fast. I'm sure your husband will be so proud of you!!!! You seem to be a natural fit for the USA

 

Selfish, Arrogant and Clueless. Just like 90 percent of all people in your age group. Please make sure when he comes over that the first thing you do is take him Jon and Kate Gosselin's House and have a Picture taken by their front gate right before you tell him your dramatic secrets!!!

[Dexter Morgan]

i dont have the urge to stop...and i know that makes me a devil...

 

this is easy. get an annullment so he can be free from you. If you haven't been married long and no kids together, then you should be able to get an annullment easy.

 

And one more thing, don't get married again, you can't handle marriage.

[cas114]

look im gonna be rude and all so im sorry but the truth is that your a bitch !. at least as of now you are... come on , he is the one ? how so ? i mena how can you cheat on the one ? if its really really , i mean, if you are sure ? if you are pretty sure is him ? .... here is it , he is not .

 

now. you just lost what..,, like 5 years of your life and his life for nothing -cause you dont even have a child yet.

[Bryanp]

How would you feel if your husband was doing to you what you are doing to him? Your behavior shows that you do not care how disrespectful and humiliating your behavior is to your husband. If you have any respect left for your husband (which I doubt) you will be honest with him so he can decide how he wishes to proceed in this relationship. Tell us again how your husband is the one for you while you are screwing another man behind his back and saying you don't wish to stop. You are a real piece of work.

[Spectre]

Typical chick who goes and bangs another dude all while still claiming she "loves" her husband. Thanks to this forum I can see how truly clueless some people can be. I feel sorry for your husband, he deserves way better than you. I can only pray I never get involved with a girl like you.

[jerseyboy]

All the other bs aside

 

YOU HAVE GOT TO TELL THIS GUY

 

Whats already trranspired is bad enough. You cant let him come all the way over here, move from a different freaking country, then figure out it wasnt meant to be.

 

As awful as what has already happened is (and truthfully Im not judging, I kind of get it) doing the other to him is even lower and more unforgivable.