Camokiss Posted November 10, 2009 Share Posted November 10, 2009 My H and I are both 22yrs old and have been married for 3yrs. We also have two small babies together. About a month ago we started going to a marriage counselor...bc H and I wanted to seek help in some areas of our marriage (his anger, he chooses porn over having sex with me, how to communicate better) She never saw the two of us together ... We always had to go on seperate days... Her choice. To make a long story short she told him to do what he wanted and just don't tell me ... At first I thought H was just saying that... But she told me she said it bc she doesn't believe in changing people... FYI I don't have a problem with porn I just have a problem that he is "addicted" and didn't seem to want sex with me anymore... Even tho I tried different ways of getting it everyday AND I'm a very attractive woman .... So u wanted to help him thru this so we could move on in our marriage... He admitted he had a pro lem as well.... The counselor told me to divorce him.... I was shocked that she would say that ( bc H and I didn't have any other major problems) BUT bc she was a professional I vauled her opinion. H and I talked about it and we decided for me to spend a week with my family in another state so we could think about things... After the week was up I called him and told him how much I loved Jim n couldn't wait to come home... He told me to stay up there longer... It hurt and shocked me bc he never told me to stay away before... After that convo I had a gut feeling that something was going on... So I logged into his email account... I have NEVER done it before but I knew the password bc he gave it to me a few years ago... When I logged in I expected to find subspritions to adult websites... Which doesn't bother me other then I want more sex from him.... Instead I found 4 accounts to online dating sites... Picture messaging between another woman... And he sent private pics of me out to 302 different emails including " my wife for ur wife". I felt like someone punched me in the stomach... I couldn't talk or even stand up bc I was crying so much. Finally I called him about it.... Of course he got mad that I went into his email and wouldn't talk about anything I found. Over the course of 2 weeks I move back home and we went to a different marriage counselor... This woman said our last counselor actually had her liscense taken away bc of bad advice ( she was getting divorced so I guess it affected her work). H admits he did wrong but he still sticks up fir the dating sites once n a while " it's just like myspace or facebook" even though he had "married but looking for other women for fun" on one of his accounts. Yesterday we talked about it again and he said that he messged about 20women from these sites and only emailed and sent pics to one. He said he had no intention of meeting any of them... Just wanted pictures and the thrill of talking.... Even tho I actually emailed n talked to the one girl n she said he talked about meeting up. He says he never physically he cheated on me.... And he wants to stay together and he will let me have passwords to everything and he will stop watching porn until he can get his usage under control...... I'm back living with him bc we have two babies together and I wanna believe that we can turn things around.... We LOVE our new counselor and she said that he he truly truly wants too that he can better himself with my help and support.... What do u guys think? I'm also hurt about him sending pics of me to hundreds of people... But I'm unsure of how to really feel... Thankyou for support and advice Link to post Share on other sites
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