Don't know what to do.....back off or keep pursuing

[fevo7]

My girlfriend and I have been seeing each other AGAIN for about five or six months now. We were previously together in high school for roughly six months also. Here's what happened in a short term:

 

Dated for about three months before actually going boyfriend/girlfriend back in high school. Great relationship, nothing went wrong we were just young, and my immature self broke up with her and didn't give her a good reason. Mainly, I broke up with her because I was going off to college and I didn't think I could handle that type of relationship because she didn't even have a car and I was 200 miles away.

 

After I did two years at college I came back home on a break. I had been thinking of her for a long time and we happened to bump in to each other while I was at work. We talked, said she had a boyfriend but still wanted to hang out. She eventually broke it off with him, got with me after a month of dating or so. And now the relationship seems even more mature and deeper than ever. We're like one person, she's my other half and I'm hers. Everything is and had been great.

 

Very recently, I went out with an old friend from high school and we kissed. It took me by shock at first but I pulled away. The old friend was seeing more into what I was doing, I just saw it as two friends getting together and hanging out and saw a movie. We didn't even sit together, and she invited to me visit her in college and we could party. I am very dumb when it comes to that stuff, that's why it took so long for me to even ask my girlfriend out and we dated so long. We have an open relationship, she tells me if she goes out with guy friends and I do the same, I just didn't mention this one. I told my girlfriend about three weeks after this incident, and right now she's over the anger and shock phase I think....and it seems that we are reconciling. (don't know if spelled correctly, sorry) I bought flowers, card, wrote poems, made a cd with love music and our old songs and told her that she means the world to me and the other girl meant nothing. My g/f and I had planned on getting married after I finish college and wanted to get engaged soon. What else should I do, or should I back off a little so she make officially decides what she wants I guess. And if we do officially get back together, should I go ahead and pop the question this christmas or new years.

[sarah12]

Give her time to think things over and let her know that you are sorry (which I am sure you already have) and that you love her. Tell her that you will be around no matter what and that you realize that the choice is hers to make and that you don't want to pressure her.

 

As for the popping the question..I would give it some time. It just so happens that xmas and new year's are around the corner but don't worry, cause so is Valentine's day. These things are not to be rushed so it's best to wait until everything is settled, plus some extra time just in case.

 

From the sounds of it though, she loves you very much if she is still around..and you do seem like a genuine guy..and she will realize that once she comes around. She needs time to really think about things though. I wish you the best.