Long distance PAIN

[amore2]

This is a long story but im going to try and keep it short. I met this girl from England on Facebook and im from Canada. We are both Italian and are from the same part of Italy. Im in my early 20`s shes in her mid-20`s. Last Feb. we began to talk over msn non stop. It was freeky how we both think, act, and reason the same way. We both speak our second language and dilect, and have been raised the same way, and both want someone like each other as partners. Its hard to find someone who is culturaly similiar.We shared everything, felt like ive known her my entire life, and we were closer with each other more than other ppl r face to face. We share everything and are very close. We do webcam occasionally and i love to see her, shes so beautiful and i love her accent. Besides this, i fell in love with her before i even seen a picture of her. We both go to Italy during the summer, and this past summer we met up on the beach, her town and my town r close. It was hard to meet up, so we only met up once. WOW wut a moment, seeing her in person, it will stay with me for ever. Summer ended and we returned to our countries, talking over msn everyday every night. So i had to tell her the way ive felt towards her. So i poored myself to her like ROMEO one night. The things i said to her will never be repeated with the same meaning to anyone else, i can tell u that. She was shocked in a good way. But i felt she just nudged it off. I was upset because i poored myself to her and i didn't get a solid response from her if she liked me or not. So after a little while, i found out this other girl here liked me. I just can`t focus on this other girl and i can't give myself to her. I told this girl in England about it, how i keep thinking about her even though this girl likes me, and i poored myself like ROMEO again to her, telling her i wanted to be more than friends, and how i couldn`t be with anyone else. I wanted to know how she felt towards me, if she loved me the way i loved her. She was shocked again, and told me she loved me, but due to our age, and distance, it wouldn't work. I told her how distance is not a problem if we both love each other and work it out. Recently she told me she is seeing someone and u can imagine the way i feel. I supported her, and i also told her that i wanted to kinda back off than, kinda take a break from her, she insisted that i remained close to her even though she is seeing someone. So i did, but all at once, our close bond has been seperating. We no longer talk all the time, and when we do, she occasionaly says ì thought of you today" which i find flattering but....i ask myself and i want to tell her, Why do you think of me, if your seeing someone? whats his purpose? thats the way i see it. I know she thinks of me, and has always thought of me ever since we have been talking. Im nuts for her, i love her so much, but i don't know wut to do. I feel as if ive been used. Should i tell her we should cut the line between us? should we take a break? should i just leave her in the past? We have been thorugh alot, and i feel as if i just can't completly forget about her. She knows that what we have shared is unique and what we have been through is like a hollywood movie plot, but i can't get over how distance seperates us. I feel like ive been to good of a person to her, andim that type of guy that puts family and love first. I badly miss her and would do anything to see her again. I don't know what to do.

[SophieA]

Sounds like you got your answer when she told you she was seeing someone else and that with the distance and your ages it wouldn't work.

 

Move on. That's what I'd do.

 

If you're BOTH not totally committed it won't work. And she is obviously NOT committed AT ALL.

[VeveCakes]

She's just not that into you.

 

Sorry, but as you can see in this forum if the feelings are there the distance means very little.

 

I suggest shutting down contact for a little while, to make it easier to move on. If she wanted to be with you, she would be.

[amore2]

Thanx for the input, ummm we havn't been talking for a while and i just feel like emotionally cheated. I still like her, but I don't emotionally feel the same anymore for her, its like ive reached the point where i feel like ive wasted my time maybe. No longer does she text me or mesg me. Im losing her as a friend to i think. When we do talk its short and not like before. Im trying to move on though, but i just can't beleive how she changed. No longer do i compliment her or say the things i did before. I feel like telling her off, like wow u forgot everything lol jk! but u know wut i mean. Is she acting this way because she's trying to forget me? should i tell her i don't want to lose her as a friend at least? i know she hasn't forgot, but it bothers me.