twinkle Posted December 10, 2003 Share Posted December 10, 2003 [font=arial][/font][color=black][/color]Hello everyone, my name is Twinkle and i'm 16 years old, I go with this boy who I have been dating for 2 years. I really love him but now he's starting to hit on me a lot more than usual I want to tell someone but he said if i do he'll kill me . PLEASE HELP Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 10, 2003 Share Posted December 10, 2003 Find the phone number for your local women's shelter and talk to them. They will be able to help you. Link to post Share on other sites
Sweetlady Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 I think you should just try to leave him alone. He may say he likes you but, its really a front. Boys do things like that just to have somebody that they can hit on. Link to post Share on other sites
cindy0039 Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 Originally posted by twinkle [font=arial][/font][color=black][/color]Hello everyone, my name is Twinkle and i'm 16 years old, I go with this boy who I have been dating for 2 years. I really love him but now he's starting to hit on me a lot more than usual I want to tell someone but he said if i do he'll kill me . PLEASE HELP PLEASE tell your parents or another adult you can trust. There are things that can be done to protect you. Don't put up with this kind of behavior one more day! Link to post Share on other sites
LostInnocence Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 I was 14 when I started my 1st relationship w/ my duaghters father, I was 16 when I lost my virginity and when he started to hit me. It never got better only worst, I got pregnant and it didn't stop. It took me untill I was 19 to break free from that relationship and only b/c he left to FL. Be very carefull and stand up for your self, he will keep doing this to you only as long as you let him get away with it. Get out of that relationship, your too young and it can only get worst. Talk to someone. Link to post Share on other sites
Tony T Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 Not in all your life should you ever allow anybody, male or female, to touch you if you don't want to be or to beat or assault you in any way. If your boyfriend is beating on you, call the police and have him charged. It is illegal for any person to hit another. This is a civilized society. If your boyfriend wants to beat on people, tell him to take up boxing or wrestling or move to the jungles of Africa where he can pick on animals, like gorillas and lions, his own size. Only wimps and sub human species beat on women. YUK!!! If you allow this to continue, it is your fault. If you don't call the police, talk to a school counsellor, your parents, or some other trusted person. Stop this now before you are killed. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 Twinkle, You've gotten some great advice on here. It's not only advice either...it's a possible life saver. You say you love this boy...but would you want someone like that to be the father of your children? What possible good can ever come out of a situation like this? A guy who loves and respects a woman doesn't beat her up. He needs help before he DOES end up in jail. If you DO really love him....help him by turning him in....and getting him help for his uncontrollable anger. I have a 14 year old daughter. I would be MORTIFIED if a boy hit her! If you don't have a Mom to talk to, again, there are school counsellors, women shelters, any relative you may trust, someone at your church, a friend's parent.....etc. Obviously you are upset about this today. By tomorrow you'll forgive him till he does it the next time....and the next. One day, he may really hurt you or worse and it will be too late. PLEASE Twinkle...get off your computer and go talk to someone NOW. Make sure and come back to tell us how you are doing. Arabess Link to post Share on other sites
bonnieJ83 Posted December 14, 2003 Share Posted December 14, 2003 girl just a bit more advice i'm 20 now and not that much older.... my husband of 2 years had begun somewhat abusing me. i have doen everything for this man. but he still continues to make me fall out of love with him by hurting him. in time if you dont break away you will get hurt more or fall out of love. just get away its reall no that bad. if you cant tell your parents then tell a counselor or officer and get a restraining order just so he wont hurt u worse for telling listen to tupac's song dear mama. and just mediatat keep ur head up bonnie J Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 14, 2003 Share Posted December 14, 2003 1. End Relationship Don't ever talk to him, ever again, no matter what. Cease contact with him, and those who hang around with him. 2. Call Police and press charges. This will make it easier to advance things if something worse happens. 3. Seek Counseling If you are attracted to abusive men, it could be something you need to worry about, and you should work it out with a professional. Note: This is only your fault if you allow it to continue, it's a problem with him, not you. End it, Call Police, Help yourself. Don't let the cycle of abuse continue. Please. Link to post Share on other sites
Vivid_29 Posted December 14, 2003 Share Posted December 14, 2003 Originally posted by twinkle [font=arial][/font][color=black][/color]Hello everyone, my name is Twinkle and i'm 16 years old, I go with this boy who I have been dating for 2 years. I really love him but now he's starting to hit on me a lot more than usual I want to tell someone but he said if i do he'll kill me . PLEASE HELP Run away, as fast as you can. Get some pepperspray or mace. File a restraining order. Protect yourself!!! If there is a situation where he is beating on you and there is no way out, kick him square in the fellas. And next time, he may think twice about putting his hands on you! It may be a little far fetched, but it could save your life! Link to post Share on other sites
AndreaLee Posted December 14, 2003 Share Posted December 14, 2003 Sweetie, I have gone through the same situation. I want you to know that it is NOT your fault. Never believe that it is your fault for this. NO ONE deserves to be hit or treated badly. Please understand that no one is gonna blame you for him hitting on you, ok? It may be scary but please, tell your mom or dad or another adult that you trust I promise you that they will not blame you for this. My prayers are with you for your safety.... Link to post Share on other sites
LadyB_89 Posted December 16, 2003 Share Posted December 16, 2003 Leave Him, Tell Your Parents & Let The Cops Know!! I Was In A Similar Situation & I Am Only 14!! My Boyfriend Tried To Rape Me & He Beat Me!! I Left Him And He Started Making Death Threats To Me So I Told My Parents & My School & Now The Cops Know & I Am Getting Councling. He Is Now Getting What He Deserves!! And So Should This Guy!! Dont Let Him Do It Too You!! I Know What Your Going Though & You Shouldn't Have To. No One Should Have To Go Though That Pain!! He Really Messed Me Up & It Seems Like It Is Taking Forever To Get Everything Back To Normal But I Know That If I Keep Trying Things Will Get Better. I Felt Better Just After I Left Him. Now The Cops Know, If He Trys To Contact Me, Says Anything To Me Or Does Anything To Me He Is Getting charged With Harrassment & Stalking & Abuse!! No One Deserves This!! So Please... Do Leave Him And Get Help... Its Not You Fault!! He's The One With The Problem!! Link to post Share on other sites
AllyKat Posted December 24, 2003 Share Posted December 24, 2003 My daughters father hit me...choked me. If you dont leave this boy you will one day get seriously hurt. He will not change, not without alot of help, not from you but from professionals. I do believe, if you can get away from him long enough, you will realize you loved the boy you wanted him to be, not that one he really was. He will and has changed you forever. Dont take anymore. It doesnt have to be this way. Talk to your parents, a couselor at school! Please, he will hurt you and I cannot bear that thought! Link to post Share on other sites
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