So his sister calls me

[TogetherForever]

so if I understand you correctly, they were already seperated BEFORE you were even in the picture?

 

If so, my apologies if I sound harsh. But it still may be a hard pill for his family to swallow.

 

If they are in a different place now, run with it. Like someone else here said, if you feel the need to put it in their face of how you were treated at the start, then they might oblige you and think why should they bother trying to incorporate you in the family...they can go back to treating you the way they did at the start

 

which still isn't clear on how, i.e. did they tell their brother/son to specifically keep you away from family functions? Or when inviting him they just didn't mention you...could it be they just assumed you would come if he was invited? Maybe they weren't comfortable with the change yet.

 

 

They just didn't invite me because his wife was gonna be at the functions.

Then when I mentioned how effed up that was, they started to include me.

 

He told them that I was the woman in his life now & that he wanted me there with him.

 

I hang out with his sisters also. Just one of them is still in touch with his exw.

 

No one was comfortable with the change in the beginning other than he & I.

[Dexter Morgan]

They just didn't invite me because his wife was gonna be at the functions.

Then when I mentioned how effed up that was, they started to include me.

 

1) they didn't invite you, or they specifically excluded you? could it be that when they invited their brother/son that it is expected he will bring whoever he wants.....which would be you?

 

and

 

2) who did you mention to that it was "effed" up? your man, or them?

maybe after saying something they decided to include you by being more specific?

 

they could have said, "well to hell with her if that is going to be her attitude about it". but they didn't....did they. and now you want to throw it in their face?

 

Like I said, this may be a huge pill for them to swallow...but they ARE swallowing it and looks like they are including you when they don't have to.

 

as said before...be thankful...not resentful.

 

 

 

He told them that I was the woman in his life now & that he wanted me there with him.

 

but did they tell him, "do not bring that woman"?? Or did they just not mention you?

 

 

I hang out with his sisters also. Just one of them is still in touch with his exw.

 

ok, so the sisters you now hang out with and are on good terms with...you want to get all catty and tell them, "you treated me like s##t by not mentioning my name when extending invites to your brother"??

 

if you are now on good terms with them, why would you do that?

 

No one was comfortable with the change in the beginning other than he & I.

 

of course not. and you can't blame them for it. looks like they have learned to accept it and you are on good terms with his sisters.....so WTF?

[Dexter Morgan]

and here is a thought. This is not a reflection on you, but merely what I'd do if I were in his sister's shoes as a brother.

 

If I was uncomfortable with a man coming into my sister's life in the beginning, but over time learned to like him and hung out with him....then all of a sudden out of the blue he decided to make an issue out of how things were in the beginning and tell me he didn't appreciate me treating him like crap...I'd say, "well #### you then" and have nothing to do with him after that.

 

I mean whats the point? He wants to eff up the progress made in the relations between him and I?

[TogetherForever]

1) they didn't invite you, or they specifically excluded you? could it be that when they invited their brother/son that it is expected he will bring whoever he wants.....which would be you?

 

and

 

2) who did you mention to that it was "effed" up? your man, or them?

maybe after saying something they decided to include you by being more specific?

 

they could have said, "well to hell with her if that is going to be her attitude about it". but they didn't....did they. and now you want to throw it in their face?

 

Like I said, this may be a huge pill for them to swallow...but they ARE swallowing it and looks like they are including you when they don't have to.

 

as said before...be thankful...not resentful.

 

 

 

 

 

but did they tell him, "do not bring that woman"?? Or did they just not mention you?

 

 

 

 

ok, so the sisters you now hang out with and are on good terms with...you want to get all catty and tell them, "you treated me like s##t by not mentioning my name when extending invites to your brother"??

 

if you are now on good terms with them, why would you do that?

 

 

 

of course not. and you can't blame them for it. looks like they have learned to accept it and you are on good terms with his sisters.....so WTF?

 

 

Damn Dex,

You don't stop do you?!

I get along with all of his sisters, his mom & his 3 adult kids.

His daughter asked if her mom could come to the bday party last saturday & his sister thought it best to ask if I minded.

Turns out I did mind but his exw didn't want to go anyway.

 

All that matters (now that I've taken in what you & others have said to me here) is that they accept me into their family.

 

I see that & dont plan on stirring the pot.

[TogetherForever]

and here is a thought. This is not a reflection on you, but merely what I'd do if I were in his sister's shoes as a brother.

 

If I was uncomfortable with a man coming into my sister's life in the beginning, but over time learned to like him and hung out with him....then all of a sudden out of the blue he decided to make an issue out of how things were in the beginning and tell me he didn't appreciate me treating him like crap...I'd say, "well #### you then" and have nothing to do with him after that.

 

I mean whats the point? He wants to eff up the progress made in the relations between him and I?

 

 

I agree. See my prior post.