How do you know if he is interested????

[just_bella]

Hello there

 

I've just started dating again. I am a little rusty since I just got out of a 4 yr relationship.

 

Well, I met a very nice guy. We had 2 dates. they both went very well. We had a lot to talk

 

about. We have similar interest. Okay here is my question? How do you if he is interested?

 

On our last date, he invited me over his place for mvie & food. But we just watched tv &

 

talked instead. we justed basicly got to know each other better. At the end of the evening,

 

he walked me out to my car. I hugged him good bye. He gave me a simple kiss on the

 

cheek. And asked me to call him the next day. It has been 2 days. He hasn't called yet.

 

Should I call him as he suggested or wait to see if he is interested??

[moimeme]

He asked you to call him. You not calling him is telling him you're not interested. Call the guy!

[jenny]

call him, or email him. once.

 

if he does not return either, do not call again.

[just_bella]

Thank you!!!

 

I will call him. But I don't want to come off as desperate. This whole dating situtation is

 

confusing. When to call or not to call. How to seem interested witout being pushy or

 

scaring them off.

[moimeme]

I treat men like women friends since, rumour has it, they are people too. If he ASKS you to call, then he has left the ball in your court and you should call just as you would with a gal pal. I think it's pretty sad that people can't like people or make more than one overture towards someone without everybody leaping to the conclusion that they are 'desperate' or pushy.

 

Heck, if they scare that easy, who needs 'em LOL. Seriously, though - I think these things are better managed if we treat each other like fellow humans than like some sort of creatures from different planets (John Grey notwithstanding).

[just_bella]

Okay, I called him. I left a message on his phone. I invited him to lunch on Thursday. Since

 

I have a meeting in his area. So we will see what happens.

 

Gosh, I hate dating. I feel like a silly school girl chase that cute guy around the play ground.

 

Dating Stinks! I prefer when they are doing the chasing. Becuz I am blind as a bat when it

 

comes to signs of interest. Gosh I hate this. Too bad he is such a cute nice guy or I would

 

have given up already.

[moimeme]

It would be lovely if people said what they meant. With luck, your guy is one of those so when he asked you to call him, it's because he sincerely wanted you to call him.

[dlb311]

How long have you been on your own?

 

I think dating sucks also. I was in a relationship for two years and before that a two year relationship I am stillyoung 22 so I do what I like that is stick with one person I really like. But hey I got my heartbroken twice.

 

I think that with dating you have to be yourself as much as you can. If you don't you will get yourself in a mess or a game. I tell the person straight out from now on what I want. Because if they leave because that is not what they want or that is scared them off they aren't the kind of person I want in my life then.

 

I have learned alot.

 

And with every date and every situation we just learn more.

 

Good luck with him

[d1410]

I agree. dating CAN stink but it can also be very fun and exciting. Meeting someone for the first time, getting to know them, etc.

 

I had a similar thing happen to me this week. I had 3 dates with this new guy, who I like a lot. We got very intimate on our last date, but I wasn't worried because it was natural...it just felt right. At the end of the evening, he drove me home because we both had to get up for work the next morning. we didn't mention calling each other but kissed goodnight.

 

I decided to wait one day and then call and leave a nice message ending with 'I'll be home later tonight if you want to chat' He never called and I wonder if he ever will. No a big deal, I guess,,, but I hate the wondering part of the first few dates.

[just_bella]

I've been single for a few months now. He is also recently out of a relationship too. He has

 

been out for over a yr. But his relationship was for 7 yrs. I think he wants to take things

 

slow also. Who knows!!! It is thursday still no call. I prided myself not to call until he does.

 

So we will see. If he doesn't call it is ok. Becuz I rather know his intentions now rather then

 

later. I hate these crazy rules guys have about when to call a girl. If he likes me

 

just call already. But no, they don't want to look like they actually like you. Because you

 

might reject them. I wish people were just themselves. Stop the games. Just Be yourself!!!

 

Life is too short to be playing games.

[moimeme]

Sigh.

 

People.

[just_bella]

I decided just be friendly and give him another call to wish him happy holidays. It has been

 

over a week since I've heard from him. What the heck...just call him..Right! Well, when

 

I called he seem happy to hear from me. He actually wondered why I didn't call him earlier. I

 

told him I did call him earlier last week. And he said he never got the message. It seems he

 

losted his cell phone at work. And he just replaced his phone. So I don't know if I believe

 

everything from him. But we will see.

[michiganmale27]

It could be true. I've had situations in which people have called me and I never received the message. If he is anything like me, if I tell someone to call me I really want the person to call me.

 

He did place the ball in your court in asking you to call him. He probably wanted to not risk the possibility of scaring you off, or you rejecting him when he wanted to go out with you again.

 

I agree, this is a very silly game for people to play. I, as well, would wish people would simply be themselves. However, there is a big three letter word that steps in the way from preventing this from happening. The three letter word is EGO, and nobody wants to deal with a crushed ego.

 

Hope this advice helps...Good luck, i'm sure your guy likes you alot...Give it time!!! Happy New Year!!!