Whey2Big4u Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 (edited) Hey all, its been over a year since my last post and at that time it was over my ex fiance who left me in a mound of hurt and pain. Well to let everyone know Im doing a biggilion times better (if thats even a word lol) Well anyway I have this best friend. WE go back about 8 years now, Im 23 and shes 26. She was there when I was with my ex and after. She helped me get through alot. WE where both heavy at one point and we both lost it. Well I always had feelings for her even when i was with my ex fiance and my other exes, but never admitted to myself. The other day I finally admitted it to myself Weve known each other for a long time and now we work of the same company. Weve been on many trips together for work and she is a lot of fun. Out of all the girls ive been with she is the only genuine one and we believe and want the same things in life. We talk for hours at a time and can talk about anything. I would do just about anything for her and have. Here is where im confused, I don't mean to be vain in anyway, but when she was heavy I was not physically attracted, but now she has lost alot and she looks good, there is a lot of potential. (and I have been with some very attractive women) I know I'm rambling but I just am not sure what to do, how to tell her and if she feels the same way (although my family says she does lol) I also am scared due to all my past relationship experiences, im very causious. What happens when Best Friends become more, do things change alot and can it go further from there? Edited November 12, 2009 by Whey2Big4u Link to post Share on other sites
silic0ntoad Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 It can go further. It all depends. I am in a similar situation, but not with a "best" friend. Things have just recently gotten hot & heavy. I'd say take it slow. Flirt. Drop hints. If she is reciprocal, then go from there. It's quite simple really. But no, realise, once the cat is out of the bag, it'll never be what it was before. Link to post Share on other sites
Princess1985 Posted November 12, 2009 Share Posted November 12, 2009 The only thing you can do is tell her how you feel. If you think she is interested, then she probably is. ...but you wont know until you tell her how you feel. You should start off slowly by giving her compliments, saying she looks good today. or say you like her hair, outfit, or whatever. She will get the idea that your into her sooner or later. ...if she doesnt smile and act flirty or different "in a good way" then maby she just wants to be friends. ...but just try it out and see what happens. Link to post Share on other sites
masaria Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 Just tell her how you feel! Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted November 13, 2009 Share Posted November 13, 2009 I say be honest with her. I bet she has been hiding these similar feelings for you for a long time as well. She is probably afraid of coming out with it for fear of you not being interested and losing your friendship. All you can do is try...8 years is a LONG time so either way I'm sure things will be okay. You'll either go on to date and maybe have the love of your life...or you'll keep your friend and not waste anymore of your time worrying over how things will go. Either way..good luck...keep us posted. And BTW good job on the weight loss..been there done that..went from 450lbs to 195lbs:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
Author Whey2Big4u Posted November 15, 2009 Author Share Posted November 15, 2009 I think I will tell her, but I'm not sure how to. I also am not sure when since well its a bit complicated........... Lets just say big things are going to happen at work which involves both of us and I dont wanna complicate things, as much as I would like to ask her soon I feel that it would be better to wait till these things happen at work Link to post Share on other sites
Barby Posted November 15, 2009 Share Posted November 15, 2009 Sounds like a good idea!! Link to post Share on other sites
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