Does She Like Me Or Should I Move On

[joshuadoughboy]

I MET THIS GIRL A LITTLE OVE 2 MONTHS AGO. WE HAVE GONE ON DATES ABOUT ONCE OR TWICE A WEEK SINSE AND I HAVE TAKEN HER ON RATHER EXTRAVAGENT DATES COSTING OVER 150 A DATE TO TRY TO IMPRESS HER BUT AFTER OUR FIRST DATE SHE MADE SURE TO TELL ME SHE DID NOT WANT A BOYFRIEND RIGHT NOW. I SAID OK AS LONG AS YOU FEEL THIS WILL BE GOING SOMEWHERE , I CAN HANDLE IT GOING AS SLOW AS YOU WANT AS LONG AS ITS GOING. SHE SAID YES SHE DOES LIKE ME AND SHE WANTS TO DATE ME.

 

SHE IS WIERD WHEN SHE CALLS ME SHE CAN TALK FOR HALF AN HOUR OR MORE BUT WHEN I CALL HER SHE ONLY HAS A MINUTE. SHE WILL NEVER BRING UP A DATE I ALWAYS HAVE TO DO IT. SHE ONCE TOLD ME THAT SHE WAS USED TO GUYS BEING MORE TOUCHY. AND I SAID I LIKE BEING TOUCHY TOO I JUST WAS TRYING TO BE A GENTLE MAN. SHE SAID I DONT WANT YOU TO GET TOO EMOTIONAL THOUGH AND IT MAY NOT BE A GOOD IDEA. SO THE NEXT DATE SHE CAME OVER I COOKED HER DINNER AND TRIED BEING MORE TOUCHY I GOT TO SECOND BASE BUT COULD NOT CONTINUE BECAUSE IT WAS THE WRONG TIME OF MONTH.

 

SOMETIMES MILL TALK TO HER AND ASK IF SHE WANTS TO DO SOMETHING LATER IN THE WEEK SHE WILL SOMETIMES SAY OK IF ITS LATE AFTER SHE GETS OFF WORK AT LIKE 11 BUT NEVER SEEMS TO HAVE TIME TO HANG OUT ON HER DAYS OFF WHEN IT SEEMS TO BE MORE CONVENIENT. I DONT FEEL I CANT BE OPEN WITH HER ABOUT MY FEELINGS I THINK ITS BECAUSE SHE SHUT THEM DOWN BACK IN THE BEGINNING.

 

ANYWAY LAST WEEKEND I HAD SOMETHING BAD HAPPEN TO ME AND I WAS HURT ABOUT IT. AND SHE CALLED JUST BECAUSE AND NOTICED THAT I WAS SAD AND ASKED IF ID LIKE TO HANG OUT AT HER HOUSE ON MONDAY. THIS WAS INCREDIBLE CONSIDERING SHE HASNT PLANNED A DATE ONCE AND WE HAVENT HUNG OUT AT HER HOUSE EITHER SO I WENT OVER THERE AND WE WATCHED A MOVIE I WANTED TO HOLD HER HAND BUT SHE DIDDNT WANT TO I ASKED HER WHAT WAS WRONG A MIN LATER SHE SAID IT WASNT BECAUSE SHE DIDDNT WANNA HOLD MY HAND SHE WAS JUST COMFORTABLE SITTING ON IT. BUT ABOUT 10MINUTES LATER SHE LEANED AGAINST ME AND I PUT MY ARMS AROUND HER AND HELD HER HAND. AND EVEN KISSED HER ONCE OR TWICE.

 

ANYWAY THE MOVIE ENDED AND WE SAT FOR A MINUTE AND I DECIDED TO ASK HER IF SHE WAS DATING ANYONE ELSE AND SHE SAID NO THEN I TOLD HER THAT I LIKED HER A LOT AND ID LIKE US TO SEE EACH OTHER ONLY AND I ASKED HER HOW SHE FELT ABOUT THAT. AND SHE SAID THAT SHE STILL WANTS TO BE ABLE TO SEE OTHER PEOPLE IF IT WERE TO COME UP. I SAID OK ALTHOUGH I WAS DEVASTATED INSIDE. I ASKE DHER IF SHED LIKE TO HANG OUT THURSDAY CUS SHE SAID SHE HAS WED THUR OFF AND SHE SAID SHE CANT CUZ SHES DOIN SOMETHIN . I SAID OK WELL HOW ABOUT WEDNESDAY (TODAY) SHE SAID MAYBE. BUT SHE HASNT CALLED ME SINSE MONDAY WHEN WE SAW EACHOTHER AND SHE KNOWS I CANT STAY OUT PAST LIKE 9 CUZ I HAVE WORK IN THE MORN. BUT I DID TRY TO HIDE THE FACT THAT SHE HURT ME SOOO AND JUST SMILED AND GAVE HER A NICE SLOW LONG GOODBYE KISS AND HUG AND SHE SEEMED INTO THAT. BUT I DONT HAVE A CLUE AS TO WHATS UP WITH THIS GIRL. I LIKE HER A LOT MUCH MORE THAN WHAT SHE WOULD LIKE ME TO IM SURE BUT I DONT GET HER.

 

OH YEAH SHE BROKE UP WITH HER BOYFRIEND OF 2 YEARS ABOUT 2 1/2 MONTHS BEFORE SHE MET ME. SHE SAID HE WAS VERY EMOTIONAL AND EXPECTED HER TO SPEND HER EVERY FREE MOMENT WITH HER. AM I LIKE HER LITTLE REBOUND GUY OR HER GOOD ENOUGH FOR NOW GUY OR IS SHE REALLY INTO ME BUT DOESNT WANT TO MOVE AT A REASONABLE PACE. OR DOES SHE JUST WANT TO GO LONGER FOR US TO HAVE SEX ONCE THEN TAKE OFF. OR I COULD JUST BE DWELLING OVER NOTHING AND THINGS COUULD BE FINE. SHE HAS SAID I DWELL ON THINGS TOO MUCH BUT I DO FEEL I HAVE REASON. PLEASE HELP THANKS JOSHUA

[summerlove]

Well it sounds like to me you just might be her rebound guy! you said that she had a relationship before of 2 1/2 years and that was only like a short time ago! Well maybe she is needing to be single for a while seeking and doing what she wants! It sounds like she is not wanting to be in another relationship!

i would not stick with her!

It also sounds like to me she has you wiped! already!lol you seem to be doing everything she wants! remember to be happy in a relationship you both have to be happy!

it looks as if this girl is not going to be available for a long time she wants to play the field see whats out there , her choices! I would stop wasting my time and money on someone if they don't seem greatly appreciative. i mean 150 $ thats a lot for one date! I say DO NOT dwell on this one girl! go out and date others also! you never know you might find someone who treats you just as great as you treat this girl who doesn't seem to want anything you have to offer!

 

sorry but i say move on! you seem like a very nice guy and you deserve better!!!!

[dyermaker]

Dear Caps Lock (lol, jk),

 

I'm going to give you some advice that's pretty harsh, but that's usually the way it is. Stop. You're spending 150 dollars, which is nice, but it's overdoing it. You're not impressing her, you're coming off as desperate. She says she doesn't want a boyfriend, which means really, she doesn't want you to be her boyfriend. The only reason she's not being explicit about it, is because you're spending gobs of money on her, and she likes the attention. Be in control, be a man, and stop being so pussy-whipped, especially since trust me, in the words of biggie, ain't nothing hapnin.

 

She's got you phone whipped. She's got you emotionally whipped. By the way, about second base, you can't use the baseball analogy anymore, because the bases are different for different people. You implied second had something to do with Vaginal contact, but I've heard second anywhere from touching with clothes on to sodomy. So I'm not sure how far she's letting you go, but it doesn't look like far. Don't hold your breath, because she will never be attracted to you. You've already played your cards wrong.

 

She's looking for someone to take control and make her want him. You haven't done that, and you can't go back and change that. If you need her, she doesn't need you. Always think about that, they're in control, and if you want it, you gotta take it from her. Don't say, "Wanna do something sometime this week?" Say, "Let's go ______ on Tuesday, at 8." If she says no, in the form of her being somehow busy, drop it. Then, ask her some other time. Say, "I want to take you ______ on friday night, I'll pick you up at 6:30." If she again is busy, it's not the time, it's you, and don't ever ask again.

 

Definitely don't be open to her about your feelings. She'd love that, it's more submission on your part, but she doesn't deserve it, and when you finally realize that, you'll feel upset that you bared your soul to her. She'll tease you until it'll drive you crazy, and that's your job, not hers. Ever heard that song "Self Esteem", by the Offspring? It's relevant to your situation. The only difference would be, the guy in that song gets some, and it doesn't look like you're heading in that direction.

 

Relationships don't work when you like her more than she likes you. Don't expect rebound sex either, she's looking for something way more casual, and you've already come on too strong. Josh, I know it hurts, but if you don't take the abuse, you'll be giving it someday, and you'll thank me.

 

~Gabe