Smoove Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 Hey guys She dumped me 2 months ago after 2 years. I realise how true the cliche is 'you dont know what youv got till you lose it' man i am such a dick head. I miss her bad, but during those 2 years i was a jealous bf. Now how do i deal with her being wif otha guys, its cutting me up in pieces and the worst thing she just wanna b friends. She's happy, cos like in the past 3 years she's had 2 bfs and she's only been single for like 2 weeks, so now she realises that she is too young and wants her single life and friends n ****. Man it hurts that she's happy wif out me but i cant interfere. If ne 1 in same boat pls gives me sum advice in how to get her bak or how 2 deal with this friendships thing. Link to post Share on other sites
lost_in_chgo Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 You are going to be tortured to death by the friendship thing. Walk away, don't return her calls right away, don't act like the breakup bothers you. She knows you want her back right? Go out and find someone else, look at it as an opportunity to get around a bit. If she changes her mind, you can decide if you really want her back. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Smoove Posted December 11, 2003 Author Share Posted December 11, 2003 thanks a lot for advice Link to post Share on other sites
live2demo3k Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 I'm kind of in the same boat, went out with my girl for around a year and then she suddenly broke it, said she just hadn't been single in so long she wondered what it was like and all of that, she says she's too young to be really tied up right now, and like you, at first I flipped out and didn't know what to do. I didn't think I had the courage to start ignoring her, but I did, and about a week or two after I stopped calling and stopping being around with her anytime I could, she gave me a call. Said how much she missed me and hoped that I wasn't doing anything with any other girls, dating and stuff like that, and just wanted to tell me she loved me. I figured that was a sign that maybe she wanted to start trying to work back into a relationship, wrong, and I got burnt again. A few more weeks passed and I still didn't give her time of the day too much, well she called again, this is two days ago. She says she does want to get back together, she just needs to give it more time to make sure, I don't know how to handle it this time. That's another story though, I'm going over there tonight for an hour or so to talk things over, maybe good news, then again maybe it will blow up. I feel the same as you do, like you wasted away the time you had with her by not appreciating her when you had her and like you wasted away her in general. I've been through it with her and I've told her all the little things I hated I did and I will never do them again, she appreciated that a lot in my case, maybe you should try talking to her about that. Chances are if you meant that much to her, if you cut off connection with her most of the way, not completely, most of the way.. she will come back fairly soon wondering why you aren't following her. Play that game and she could be yours again. I'm trying it. Link to post Share on other sites
mr_roggger Posted December 11, 2003 Share Posted December 11, 2003 You have to change though! I have learnt that! She won't come back if she doesn't think you've changed as what would be the point as you'd only probably break up again. Chances are though, that this time apart is giving you chance to change, and she will see it as that and hopefully it will work out how you say! This is what I'm doing right now, and you can see how well the time thing worked in my latest topic (RE. "How dinner went and where now" - or something like that!) Link to post Share on other sites
wakeboard_28 Posted December 16, 2003 Share Posted December 16, 2003 Least you got friendship outta the deal. I been single for almost two months now and she won't give me the time of day or return any of my calls. Friendship may or may not be a good thing it is up to you and how it would make you feel. Link to post Share on other sites
michiganmale27 Posted December 18, 2003 Share Posted December 18, 2003 Let me tell you people that are in a similar position regarding the "Friendship" card. Anytime that card is laid down, the best thing to do is simply decline and try to move on as best as you can. I can ASSURE you, that you will be miserable every second you are with this person. All the "Friendship" Card is essentially is something that can be played when somebody wants to be treated to a fun evening and has noone else to do it with. I do not talk to any of my ex-girlfriends at all. I broke up with one, and was dumped by another one, so it all wasn't on me either. It's simply best to pick yourself up, and move on. It's an old cliche` but the sooner you are able to do this the better you will feel. I've been there before myself. Good luck, let me know how things turn out. Link to post Share on other sites
mr_roggger Posted December 19, 2003 Share Posted December 19, 2003 I had a great time out with my ex last time as friends, it was thoroughly enjoyable! Link to post Share on other sites
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