Yet another male...

[fuzzyguzz]

Hi guys,

 

I'm in a confusing situation at the moment with my love life and the like...I don't have one at all.

 

But firstly some context:

9 months ago I exited a 15 month relationship. I broke it off, but it was definitely more her who wanted out than me. She kinda broke my heart (sob sob ).

 

Ever since then I've been figuring out what to do with myself. So I got help etc, and have recovered. But the main problem is that I haven't really found anyone else since, and am feeling really lonely.

About me:

 

I am an 18 year old male from New Zealand. I am currently at university. I don't want to sound like a self-obsessed twat, but I do consider myself quite popular. I'm the type of guy everyone knows. I'm talkative, fun, friendly, non-judgmental, funny, goofy, intelligent, unique, and I know who I am. I don't care (mostly) what others think, which can involve me doing random stuff like dancing in inappropriate places. I talk with alot of girls- confidence is not an issue with me. In fact a few of my close mates are girls. I am a very high achiever in terms of academia, but I still am pretty relaxed and not uptight. I pretty much have time for anyone- I often counsel my friends with hard times. I volunteer in the community alot. I don't judge- I grew up in a really rough background so have seen it all.

 

Like every human being, I do have alot of weaknesses though which I'm proud of cuz noones perfect!

 

Firstly I am slightly over weight (chunky legs). Secondly I have funny hair which I can never keep control of. I speak too fast and I slur my words together sometimes. I don't have a huge attention span. I do embarrassing things. When I meet a really pretty girl, I sometimes get awkwarded out and lose my confidence. Also, I am bad at picking up signs from women that they like me. Like really bad. It took 2 months of constant signs from my last gf before i asked her out.

 

Lookswise, here is a picture of me (I honestly don't know how attractive I am). http://s622.photobucket.com/albums/tt305/fuzzyguzz/?action=view&current=WilliamGuzzo.jpg

 

I socialise alot, go clubbing alot etc, so there is plenty of opportunity but noone wants me really

 

Maybe my standards are too high? I don't care about attractiveness- I just want a cool, laidback, intelligent, thoughtful, caring, witty, assertive woman who I can be in a team with. In my last relationship my partner was too submissive and it wasn't the greatest.

 

Any advice/tips? Where am I going wrong? What can I do?

 

I just feel so so lonely, I want to love SOMEBODY.

 

Thanks!

 

ps. Smileys are cool! :bunny::love: :cool: :p :rolleyes:

[Odyssey]

I speak too fast and I slur my words together sometimes. I don't have a huge attention span...When I meet a really pretty girl, I sometimes get awkwarded out and lose my confidence. Also, I am bad at picking up signs from women that they like me. Like really bad. It took 2 months of constant signs from my last gf before i asked her out

I thought you said confidence isn't a problem for you. Then why would you feel awkward? Maybe in your mind, you're building the situation up to be such a big deal. Maybe your not being sexual enough. Or maybe i misinterpreted your post, i don't know. This could be one of the reasons.

 

First of all, if a girl likes you she'll look at you and hold your gaze. You may catch her looking at you when she thinks you're not going to see her doing it. She'll play with her hair and primp to look attractive to you, she'll spend time with you, lots of playful flirting etc... Those are all signs that she's attracted to you...

 

...It's very hard to give any advice; can you give some detailed examples - how did the conversations go?

[latefragment]

I looked at your picture, you are very cute and I bet you have a cute kiwi accent!

 

are you in auckland?

 

hope you are well, good luck with everything, i am in very much the same boat.