Author dyermaker Posted December 12, 2003 Author Share Posted December 12, 2003 mine kissed me when i was in the middle of some stupid diatribe about erasmus; it still rocked. I want it to rock too, but I don't want her to feel like that's what I came for, like whether or not it's a good kiss is consequential to everything else that we have. Short of bringing up a discussion about humanism, how can I make it rock? Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 I do hope that you find the right moment and make it special for both of you. You will always remember it. MY firt kiss experience was absolutely horrible. But that's another story! Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 uhhh you askin 'bout timing, technique? Since women usually don't initiate these things in the beginning (at least I don't anyway)... the only thing I would be able to tell you is what I like, I suppose. Or what is gross/turn-offish. lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 12, 2003 Author Share Posted December 12, 2003 Yeah, go ahead, I'm all ears. I can only post once every sixty seconds though, and that's pissing me off. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 lol - now you are overplanning. but ok, here the elements, in my opinion, of a solid unforgettable kiss: 1. surprise coupled with meaning. wait till you really feel it. 2. scenery. he did not kiss me in front of the 7-11, he waited until we were in front of the playground. a small point, but it helps. 3. like writing: varying intensity. short short long; moi's right - no initial tongue. if you are the geeky sort, as mine have been, you can figure out the morse code for 'je t'adore' and work it out through kisses. 4. afterwards, compliment her extreme beauty. or intelligence. or whatever. 5. personal preference: hand on cheek or behind head. i'm a bit distracted on dates usually; i like it when they remind me to pay attention to them. and men's hands are usually larger than my cheek, i don't know, it's just a neat feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 12, 2003 Author Share Posted December 12, 2003 I have all the elements I need for a nice letter to a certain magazine, but I just, don't feel comfortable with it. Is it something that you just know how to do? Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 Ok, things I do not like: Being slobbered on. Being forced to kiss someone longer than I find I am able to hold my breath. Feeling like I'm going to swallow the other person's tongue. ((those are all the biggies)) I love soft kisses, some how they feel better than the passionate "I want you!" ones... even if I'm feeling sexy. I also like feeling their hands on my face (bleh feel like I am going into too much personal detail ummmmmmmmmm) Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 12, 2003 Author Share Posted December 12, 2003 Erm, I don't think I'd feel comfortable doing it for too long anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 I have to share something with y'all. I was terrified of being kissed, like afraid the guy would think it was horrible and stuff. I think that if its the first kiss shared by a couple they're both too nervous to enjoy it, but maybe not. Dunno. At least they won't enjoy it AS MUCH. So anyways, I asked people about it.. asked them what to do. What did they tell me? That it was all about instinct. That I would know what to do. And what am I going to tell you Dyer? It's all about instinct. You'll know what to do. They were right; so am I. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 12, 2003 Author Share Posted December 12, 2003 Sounds like a touching rephrasing of "go with the flow", but thanks, if anything I'll feel better about doing it when the time comes. I don't even know what I'm anxious about, it's definitely there though. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 I added that mostly because I knew you wouldn't like it! LOL But it *is* true... after you see her, try to tell me I'm wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 12, 2003 Author Share Posted December 12, 2003 One bad thing about all of this is that I spend most of my time thinking about her, instead of things like chemistry, and so I never get any work done. But I'm extremely tired, so I'm going to bed now, and I'll be back for more support tommrow Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 Ladies, ladies! This is a first kiss! Definitely no tongues. Something soft and sweet will do. Don't push; don't mistake pressure for passion. Don't rush, either. Definitely go for atmosphere if you can. Music might be good - and scenery if possible. I don't know about this 'surprise' business. I think that takes experience. Too much stress for a newbie. Nope, wait until she looks up into your eyes expectantly. Usually she'll look at your lips and back to your eyes. That's the 'all clear'. Save the surprise kisses for when you've kissed her enough to know when it'll be appreciated. One poor fellow told a tale of trying to surprise someone. The unfortunate effect was more to startle, to his dismay. You don't want to go there, though I suppose since she loves you, she'd be more forgving than that lass was. Link to post Share on other sites
jenny Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 lol, babe, what are you looking for? wait, how about this: 1. bring face within 5 inches during good moment in good scenery 2. read her face carefully. looking upwards from lowered lashes is a good sign; growling or frowning is bad. 3. if signs are good, continue face travel. 4. tilt head approximately 27 degrees. 5. approach opposite head 6. part lips 7. close eyes. 8. apply lips A to lips B. place hands on face or hip. 9. continue lips parted pressure with varying mouth positions <restrict tongue> 10. when finished, about 117 seconds, look her deeply in eyes and exclaim about any social advantage that girl has. Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 *Having a very hard time not being amused by jenny's post* Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 12, 2003 Author Share Posted December 12, 2003 Nothing like well-meaning patronizing to relieve anxiety *goes back to bed* Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 She forgot the direction of tilt! Link to post Share on other sites
DerangedAngel Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 We're all gonna jinx it for him. Poor guy. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 12, 2003 Author Share Posted December 12, 2003 Naw, sfine, gives me something to dream about tonight. If you really wanted to do me a favor, you could PM me everything you know about gas stoichiometry. Link to post Share on other sites
cindy0039 Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 Originally posted by dyermaker If you really wanted to do me a favor, you could PM me everything you know about gas stoichiometry. They teach that in high school now? Eeek! Well, here's everything "I" know about it (from the web of course): http://www.molecularsoft.com/data/help/Gas_Stoichiometry.htm http://www.mpcfaculty.net/mark_bishop/gas_stoich_shortcut.htm http://members.aol.com/profchm/gasstoic.html http://www.cartage.org.lb/en/themes/Sciences/Chemistry/Inorganicchemistry/Informationlaws/GasIndex/GasStoichiometry/GasStoichiometry.htm http://www.chemtopics.com/unit07/gastoic.pdf Sorry if it's repetitive. This stuff makes my eyes glaze over. All I have to say is, better you than me. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 12, 2003 Author Share Posted December 12, 2003 *Prints and reads in car* You're so nice Link to post Share on other sites
jmargel Posted December 12, 2003 Share Posted December 12, 2003 Dyer.. You seem pretty nervous about this kiss thing so from a guy's point of view let me help you out some. First, have confidence in yourself. In what I mean is that just keep remembering she wants 'you' and that even though you really never kissed someone who you have such feelings for you 'will' kiss good. Second, don't put it all on your shoulders. When you first meet her, give her a long warm hug. One that will last at least 30 seconds if not a minute. Just hold her, she'd really like that. Then kiss her on the cheek. She'll get the hint that this is more than just a 'hi' and you are really into her. When you walk with her, take her hand. No reason to be afraid. When you hold her hand give it a light squeeze now & then and when you look at her, smile! When you get to a point where you want to kiss her, just don't dive right in. My best advice would be to put your arm around her & cuddle her some. Kiss her while you are doing this, but make it a soft kiss on her lips, when you pull away a little smile at her and then try to kiss her again. I'm sure this will work. Trust me once this first kiss is out of the way, you'll be wanting to kiss her all the time & not even think about the awkwardness. Also, remember when you see her, give her a rose. By doing all these you are actually showing her you care about her. Actions speak louder than words. Love can be great, huh? Just don't let it scare ya Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 13, 2003 Author Share Posted December 13, 2003 I think the more I think about it the more I let it bother me, so I'm just going to resign on the issue for now, It's not worth bothering me as much as it does. I just have so much feeling for her, that I don't want this to represent less than it is. Link to post Share on other sites
Author dyermaker Posted December 20, 2003 Author Share Posted December 20, 2003 I don't know if anyone even remembers this, but I'm not afraid anymore. We have plans to spend New Year's together, and there's really only one thing you do on New Years. Now I can barely wait, thanks everyone Link to post Share on other sites
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