builderbob Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Let's say that someone told your significant other something, doesn't matter what, it could be anything...and they say "Just don't tell anyone". Then your significant other tells you the story saying "Oh someone told me this.." and they proceed to tell you the story. When you curiously ask "Who told you that?" your significant other says "I won't tell you because I promised I wouldn't say anything". Why start saying something then? Would you be upset that they won't tell you who it was? Would you feel like they respect the feelings of the other person above yours because other person said "Don't say anything?" What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Would you feel like they respect the feelings of the other person above yours because other person said "Don't say anything?" I would feel as though their word means nothing if they agreed they would not repeat what they got told and did so anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
Author builderbob Posted November 17, 2009 Author Share Posted November 17, 2009 Even though you are the one they suppose to share all the secrets with? Tell you things that no one else knows? I agree with what you are saying, but in my mind, shouldn't you feel like they can tell you anything? even though some random person that they don't care about said "don't say anything"....even though you don't know that other person anyways? Link to post Share on other sites
Bejita463 Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Even though you are the one they suppose to share all the secrets with? Tell you things that no one else knows? Solid reason to not make a promise that you cannot keep to me. In my mind, if you tell someone you are going to keep a secret, you keep that secret. Link to post Share on other sites
EmmaLou Posted November 17, 2009 Share Posted November 17, 2009 Hehe... how annoying is that, to get the secret story but not who it was! I do think you should be able to tell each other everything... it just depends how much you trust each other. If I told my partner someone elses secret, I would know he'd keep it between us... out of respect. It's good to be able to discuss everything with your love, and the burden of a secret can be too much. Saying this, I don't share my own secrets with friends... as you don't know how trustworthy their partners are. I share secrets told to me with my boyfriend as I know his character. This only applies to the closeness and togetherness you get in relationships though... I wouldn't share my boyfriends secrets with my best friend, for example. Link to post Share on other sites
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