Big Problem?

[Kanuk]

Okay, if you've read my other posts then you know my situation.

 

Anyways, I'm goign to my ex's town tomorrow to write an exam, about 2 or 3 weeks ago i arranegd with her mother to stop by the house when my ex wasn't home and pick up some of my things. I know her mother tends to forget things once in a while, so i called tonight to remind her.

 

 

I blocked the number, cause i know from experience my ex doesn't pick up the phone if it's an unknown number, but her mother will. that and i'm trying to leave her alone so i didn't want her to knwo I called, no matter how innocent the call was.

 

So i rang and my ex picked up. Crap! So i said HI (all grilfriend respnses were very short and in an... indifferent tone of voice that i remember her reserving only for the people she hated)

"hi"

"is your mother there"

"no"

"well, can you just remind her that I'm coming down tomorrow to pick up some of my things"

"okay, bye"

 

er... i thoguht for a brief second... big mistake

Me: "well, how are you doing"

"i have the flu"

"oh that's too bad, i hope you feel well soon, how are yoru exams going"

"havn't written any yet"

"well,w ehn are they done?"

"december 18th"

"well, i'm sure you'll do just fine on them, you always do. I hope you're feeling better soon and good luck with your exams"

"okay bye"

 

And that was it. I know i shouldn't have asked her how she was doign or tried to talk to her, but after hearing her be so short with me i wanted to say something.

 

Did i really screw up as bad as I think? Does it sound like she really hates me or does it sound more like she just doesn't want to talk and wanted to get the heck away from me? Either case isn't good at all, but i hope she doesn't hate me.

 

I love this girl dearly and never intentionally hurt her. I was tryign to be so romantic. I would have thought driving 200km to suprise your gf with breakfast in bed would be smiled upon, not damn you to hell.

 

What's wrong with me?

[sarah12]

Did i really screw up as bad as I think? Does it sound like she really hates me or does it sound more like she just doesn't want to talk and wanted to get the heck away from me? Either case isn't good at all, but i hope she doesn't hate me.

Like you said, it could be either one of those..

 

I did read your other posts..I really think you shouldn't block your #..this is similar to the situation with my ex..he blocked his number with me before too..after I broke up with him. To me, that was an insult to my intelligence. He would call me 5 times in a row with a blocked # and expected me to pick it up. At the time I had asked him to let me get away from him for a while and he disrespected that. I suggest that you really just try and slowly refrain from contacting her or attempting to contact her... I think that you should start accepting that you will not be with her...sorry.

[maxmuscle]

Kanuk,

 

You are quickly making your own grave with this girl. Your are hard-headed!

 

NOTHING YOU DO IS WORKING WITH YOUR EX! Jeez! Can you get that through your thick, stuborn head. Listen bro, I hate to see you suffer because I know what it feels like. Sorry for the harsh words. I just can't stand for you or anybody to torture themselves.

 

I wake up mad and sad many times because I am not with my ex. I refuse to make a fool out fo myself. I have done that before with another girlfriend. I kissed her a$$ to as point were she didn't even respect me anymore. I had no pride, dignity, self respect, backbone, and strength. I had nothing. I am telling you man, you are losing her or maybe lost her because you WILL NOT listen.

 

I am not making that mistake with my current ex. If I lose her. It will hurt more than anything. You can't force anybody to love you or come back.

 

I know you are going to take your own advice, I guess this will be a lesson that you are going to learn on your own. I hope you will learn from this and your next breakup you can follow this forum or other forum advices.

[Kanuk]

I don't think you guys understand. I'm not trying to contact her. Honestly.

 

I had arranged with he rmother to come by and pick my things up (which I did today). I blocked the number for the exact reason that my ex WOULD NOT pick up the phone and I would not bother her. I only wanted to talk to he rmother and confirm the time as I know she can be a bit forgetful, and it had been 3 weeks since i made the arrangment.

 

Talking to my ex, while i'm sure she see's it as a pathetic attempt to talk to her, was completly by accident. I should have left it at pass the message on, but i f-ed up.