nobleguy Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 No there is not a worse feeling. A sick feeling in your stomach like nothing else I've experienced. It hurts so much for me personally because it finally spelled the end for us for ever. It took her three months to do it and I think she did it in response to getting upset after finding out I had a date. I know he's not as good as we were in bed because she's told me (I didn't even ask...). It doesn't help knowing that... She only told me about him because she wanted to introduce him to the kids, but three weeks later still hasn't... So in other words she told me to hurt me... HOWEVER, I think it has closed a lot of possibilities in my mind, and that has to be better than hanging onto the hope that every day she will think again about us before being with someone else in order to give us a chance. It was the end for us. I have no intention of getting back with her if she wanted to in the future. The person she chose was simply to hurt me and showed she has no feelings for me whatsoever. I think she is in a second rate relationship in order not to be alone any longer, and I think her life is hard compared to the cotton wool world she lived in with me supporting her. I don't really feel it right now, but in time I know I will come out of this with more than her emotionally, spiritually and financially. Link to post Share on other sites
jlr Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Yeah, it's awful. Last night my ex called me to ask me about my upcoming move. We got on the subject of sex, and us having it after we broke up. I was joking about how I have a bathtub and she doesn't. I joked maybe she could use it. She said that'd be weird taking a bath at your ex's house, but then we both laughed, since we've done alot worse as exes. Then it got bad. She basically said we had sex a couple times after we broke up. We actually did more like 10 times. I got pissed because she acted like she barely remembered it. It then turned to her telling me a bunch of **** about sex with other guys - all very casually. To which I flipped out. She said she had sex with two other guys during that period and was confused about us doing it too - though she said only 1 before. Then she played it off that the other one didn't really count because they didn't finish. And played off the confusion because she was smoking a lot of pot during that period. Whatever. She then told me she broke it off with her current BF, but they are still "friends with benefits". All this talk about how she needs to spend time alone and work on herself, and this is her plan to do it?! I got so pissed and said "Who the **** are you?". I felt like I didn't know her anymore. That's not the girl I loved. She wasn't like that. Or maybe she was before me? But when we dated she wasn't like that. We treated sex as a very special thing, now she's casual about it all. I feel really angry now. Why would you even tell me some of that ****? I don't want to know that. It's bull****. Link to post Share on other sites
Author McGrupp Posted November 18, 2009 Author Share Posted November 18, 2009 jeez. i think ill stay NC just cause of this. wow! Link to post Share on other sites
jv032889 Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 jeez. i think ill stay NC just cause of this. wow! Great Choice:) Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 No This is the next wonderful thing I have to look forward to, I'm scared I am too fragile to handle it. ugh. is there a worst feeling Link to post Share on other sites
twinklecat Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Staying NC is definitely for the best! While in my situation NC is just about impossible, I went snooping and found something horrible. Although in hindsight it has kinda helped. Made me think ALOT about the person he is and our relationship was not what I thought it was. So it goes both ways I guess. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 OMG! What a nightmare Ive actually seen my ex w another...not pictured but seen w my own eyes!! I saw a pic of him w another girl 1 month after we broke up. If picturing someone is the worst feeling than actually seeing it is the most horrible thing u can imagine. i saw the pic on her myspace. It was for her bday and apparently he took her to a hotel to "celebrate." They were sitting by a hot tub and i could see balloons in the background. I cant explain the feeling i got when i saw this. It was like i was in the twilight zone. I felt like i was floating and my stomach just dropped. Stop picturing these things. If youre lucky enough not to have seen it...DONT PICTURE IT!!! Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 But wondering, speculating, imagining can be as bad or worse than reality. What you don't know, can't hurt. Link to post Share on other sites
angelface78 Posted November 18, 2009 Share Posted November 18, 2009 Yes it was a f***** nightmare...i had anxiety attacks after that and i think im traumatized!!! Link to post Share on other sites
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