oxfordsocks Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 This Adult friend finder site--what kind of guys are on this site?? I used the site "to watch" guys to find out what i liked --and the ratio to guys to girls is immense--is this a "hook" up site or fantasy site -or what? Link to post Share on other sites
looking4 green grass Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 It was the straw that broke the camel's back in my marriage site. My husband used it to meet up with and have sex with other women and men in our area. Complete profile with pictures of his penis. Ugh. Oh adult friend finder how I loathe thee. Judging from my exH, only evil A-holes are on that site. But I'm probably biased. Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 This Adult friend finder site--what kind of guys are on this site?? I used the site "to watch" guys to find out what i liked --and the ratio to guys to girls is immense--is this a "hook" up site or fantasy site -or what? It's pretty obvious from first click on the site that this is a sex, hook-up site for people who just want random sex, no strings attached. I can't imagine how anyone would just stumble upon it for a way to look at men's pictures? Link to post Share on other sites
jerseyboy Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 It was the straw that broke the camel's back in my marriage site. My husband used it to meet up with and have sex with other women and men in our area. Complete profile with pictures of his penis. Ugh. . Ewwwww. Nasty Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 AFF only has one purpose: to get people together for sex, or things of a sexual nature. People who are on there rarely if ever limit it to one person either. You mentioned being with someone on other threads. I hope this isn't where you met him. If it is, you may want to seriously consider getting tested. ASAP. Link to post Share on other sites
looking4 green grass Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 AFF only has one purpose: to get people together for sex, or things of a sexual nature. People who are on there rarely if ever limit it to one person either. You mentioned being with someone on other threads. I hope this isn't where you met him. If it is, you may want to seriously consider getting tested. ASAP. For sure!!! I got tested consistently for a year after I ended my marriage. Oh my GROSS could only come from that place. Link to post Share on other sites
CarrieT Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 I am admittedly a promiscuous woman and even *I* won't post there... Nasty is right. Link to post Share on other sites
cognac Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 99% of the "Female" profiles on that site are bots to entice retards into joining the site. The 1% who aren't, are extremely unattractive. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oxfordsocks Posted November 19, 2009 Author Share Posted November 19, 2009 AFF only has one purpose: to get people together for sex, or things of a sexual nature. People who are on there rarely if ever limit it to one person either. You mentioned being with someone on other threads. I hope this isn't where you met him. If it is, you may want to seriously consider getting tested. ASAP. Actually yes i did(i met one previous person from this site--and he was definatly out for one thing) never heard from him again--and i have been tested---but you know what--i was beginning to wonder if there was something wrong with me and my sexual desires etcccc--so this site and that meeting awakened me and made me realize that I am not dead--and that was how i was feeling prior to that meeting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oxfordsocks Posted November 19, 2009 Author Share Posted November 19, 2009 It's pretty obvious from first click on the site that this is a sex, hook-up site for people who just want random sex, no strings attached. I can't imagine how anyone would just stumble upon it for a way to look at men's pictures? I stumbled upon that site when i was onliine with my sister who has her profile on Plenty of fish---that is how i came across it--but i must admit the chat rooms--they were safe and I was a talker a lot in those rooms-and al lot of the guys that came on there just for sex or who started to talk bad about the girls that were on that site" the guys on there that were in the chat rooms" were the first to stick up for me and not ask anything of me. It seemed to be a safe way--and a way to view actual stuff(without getting a virus on your computer from any erotic or porn sites--because at least you knew what you were watching was real and not "faked \\\\\' like a lot of the porn sites--I purposefully picked and spoke to married people so that i would not lead"single men astray" --or so i thought that is what i was intending. I believed nievly i guess that a married person was less risky.... Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 So you met your MM on AFF? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 19, 2009 Share Posted November 19, 2009 I believed nievly i guess that a married person was less risky.... Ah man, I was hoping you were going to say you DIDN'T meet MM on AFF. Honestly, you really need to understand and accept that he is out there doing the same thing with other people that he is doing with you. People on AFF do not go there to date, fall in love and find monogamy. They go there to hook up with anyone who will sleep with them. You are lucky in that you know and can go and get yourself tested. His W, not so lucky. What a terrible situation. He may have feelings for you, but if he fell for you like that - there is no telling who else he is stringing along in the same way. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oxfordsocks Posted November 20, 2009 Author Share Posted November 20, 2009 99% of the "Female" profiles on that site are bots to entice retards into joining the site. The 1% who aren't, are extremely unattractive. I am sure you didn't purposefully mean to insunate the I was one of the 1% on there (the unnattractive) that are not "staged " or paid on the site to entice men--or women-- GOing on that site was a total one off thing that I never ever would have considered--why did I do it--well i just fell into it --and kind of got addicted to feeling sexual again--I was on that site from October 18th to about first week of December 2008(and on it with my husbands knowledge) although of viewing guys only. I am an attractive --and was very attached at the time(and still married then and now) and certainly not out to "look" for anything but what a erotic site would do at that time-. Link to post Share on other sites
ADF Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 This Adult friend finder site--what kind of guys are on this site?? I used the site "to watch" guys to find out what i liked --and the ratio to guys to girls is immense--is this a "hook" up site or fantasy site -or what? It is a hook-up site. And, as is always the case with hook-up sites, two things happened rapidly: 1) The ratio of male to female users became horrendously lopsided in favor of the former. 2) It got carpet-bombed by bots. The problem is that, with few exceptions, only three types of people appear on most "adult" dating sites: 1) straight men looking for hook-ups, 2) gay men looking for hook-ups, and 3) male-female couples looking for bi-females for threesomes. Needless to say, these three main types of users are completely incompatible. That's why sites like that tend to be a waste of time and money. Link to post Share on other sites
Author oxfordsocks Posted November 20, 2009 Author Share Posted November 20, 2009 Ah man, I was hoping you were going to say you DIDN'T meet MM on AFF. Honestly, you really need to understand and accept that he is out there doing the same thing with other people that he is doing with you. People on AFF do not go there to date, fall in love and find monogamy. They go there to hook up with anyone who will sleep with them. You are lucky in that you know and can go and get yourself tested. His W, not so lucky. What a terrible situation. He may have feelings for you, but if he fell for you like that - there is no telling who else he is stringing along in the same way. I know it looks bad --when i look at that site now--I was only on it for 6 weeks and it seems so obvious but i wasn't out researching all my "options" as I said i just stumbled on it. Its hard to assume what someone's intentions are--locally I would understand if you wanted to hook up for sex --but long distance I just don't get it--and its been 5 months since I have seen the guy in the UK so I don't know why he is still investing all this time to string me along--when there are 52 million people in Uk to pick from. All he has to do is just say goodbye--and continue filandering if he wants--that site is so "not me" when i look now--but it did fill something at the time--i think its a pay site now too---not free when i was on it I do find it odd--that my husband truely believes there are feelings on each side -my husband has nothing that i can see to gain in keeping me interested--but maybe because my husband isn't a cheater--he can't comprehend how there minds work....each post makes me think and contemplate--sometimes driviing me crazy but i really appreciate all the input here Link to post Share on other sites
Lucky_One Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Way back in the days when the internet was new and we were all much more naive, I started chatting with this guy who lived 3 states away; I was married and it was all very innocent. Blah blah blah and 5 months later, I was sufficiently curious about him to agree to meet for lunch about 2 hours from my home - about 5 hours from his. More blah blahs later, he was "totally in love with me", the (get this insane crap) angel who was his dead friend from Viet Nam who sits on his shoulder sang when he saw me in person for the first time and said "I was the 'the one'". Anyway, long story short, for months he kept contacting me, demanding I leave my husband, and telling me stories of all these other women that he had been chatting with during the same time period - all in hopes of making me jealous. So sometimes, people just don't have a normal mindset. Your MM may like the ego stroking that he gets from you. He may like the rush of feeling like a teenager again. He may like masturbating via webcam with a woman in Bolivia while he IMs with you, because the variety is a turn on. Who knows why? But people who go to AFF go there for the reason you say you did - sex. It is a potent lure, and it can be addictive. When you start paying for sexual attention and ego-boosting, and then realize you can get the same thing for free from a real life person, well....what a rush. Is he still a member? Have you searched for other profiles that match his description but with a different name? Have you searched for him on sites like Ashley Madison? Link to post Share on other sites
LucreziaBorgia Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 I don't know why he is still investing all this time to string me along I don't know that he is investing time in you because he just wants to string you along. I think he genuinely likes you and likes what you do for him. Unfortunately, the chances are high that there are other women he is involved with equally, and the chances are also very high that he intends to stay married. Married men don't go to AFF and AM to get divorces. They go there to get affairs. That is the 'stringing along' part. If you were to tell him that he was stringing you along, he would deny it because in his mind what he is doing is having an affair with you - and he would not equate that with a mere 'stringing you along'. I doubt he even realizes that he is doing that. MM may seem like they care about what their OW want and need, but most of the time they are oblivious to it because what is most important to them is what THEY want and need, even if it turns out to be at the OW expense. Link to post Share on other sites
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