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Hello all, I'm new to LS, anyways heres my story:

 

My GF and I have been together for 7 months and are extremely happy together, she'll be moving in with me this coming June. Last year we went out for a month and broke it off due to a big family issue involving one of her ex's being in a gang. What led up to us going out was her breaking up with her ex after realizing he was cheating on her. Leading up to the weeks before they broke up me and her were getting close, me becoming a good friend of hers very quickly, I fell for her quickly but didn't act on it until after they broke up out of respect for her. Anyways, after they broke up me and her got together, we hit it off great and everything was going great or so I thought. She recently told me during this time she had an emotional affair with her gangster ex, the one that very recently at the time cheated on her, telling him she wanted him (not physically) and that she missed him.

 

This continued for 2 weeks until she decided to she actually wanted me and cut him off. Then the break up happened a week later. We got back together 2 more times, I broke it off the 2nd time, the third time being now, which is when she told me this. I was hurt, it may have been only a month during that time but it was still a lie and she betrayed my trust during that time.

 

She apologized profusely after telling me, allowed me to vent, but got mad after I told her I couldn't trust her 100% for a bit due to this. She told me she's completely changed since then and hasn't done anything to me since and she wishes she could change the past. She says I should fully trust her (even though she says she has trust issues due to multiple exs cheating on her, and since she's cheated she thinks its possible I'll cheat too. She says she knows I would never want to hurt her and wouldn't cheat but everyone's human so it's possible. Kinda contradicting eh? So she doesn't like when I hang out with girls 1 on 1 or hanging out when theres more girls than guys in the group. She agreed to the same term with guys). Now she's completely open with me, she's given me her facebook, myspace, email ect. and even tells me when guys flirt with her. She says she can't imagine being with anyone else. The past still somewhat hurts though, is this understandable even though we only went out for a month before splitting that time?

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Btw, I was her first kiss, we took eachothers virginity, been through hell and back and get closer everytime as a result. We are completely comfortable around one another, body image wise, communication wise, ect. Honestly, I fully believe she has changed since then, I'm just wondering if it makes sense for it to hurt even though it was over a year ago and only lasted 2 weeks in a 1 month relationship.

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Am I getting this right? You two have been seeing each other for less than a year--barely more than half a year, actually--and you've broken up 3 times already? That's a pretty tumultuous way to start a relationship. I dunno. It seems you care a lot for this woman, but it also seems there is some kind of dynamic between you that just leads to drama, drama, and more drama. I hope things settle down for you guys soon.

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We've know eachother for a year and a half actually the first time we broke up was over a year ago, the 2nd time was only 2 months after that. Then April of this year we went out again and have been together since.

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