Xochitl Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 I am 27 so this is really a strange question to ask but how does one find anyone to go out with? It seems to me that any magazine, book etc that I read tells me that because I'm a girl I need to wait until a guy asks me out. I have been following this advice all my life and since I was about 23 I've been hoping to get married. Yet I haven't found anyone and it's not because I don't meet people. I have loads of friends and I'm fun to be around. I'm average looking but that should be enough! I come from a traditional background so I've always just thought that of course I would get married and I haven't been worried about it but now it's starting to worry me a bit because it seems like I won't find anyone this way. Obviously I'm not looking for just ANYONE but I'm not superpicky, I just want someone who respects me and wants more than just sex. Impossible? Link to post Share on other sites
jerseyboy Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 You know the answer Be proactive. Just because a girl approiaches a guy doesnt mean she is surrenderign her virtue, as it were , to him. In short it doesnt make you appear easy or too aggressive. Which Ive always thought of as weird anyway because it strikes me as far less discriminating to be "picked up" Not that either is wrong, but in one scenario you accept a random invitation from some guy you dont know in the hopes of something working out. Chances being it will require many such invitiations before if ever the right one comes along. And you only get to choose from the limited number of proposals for a date. Almost guaranteeing he wont really be exactly what you want. The latter the girl has given it some thought, identified someone she potentially likes, and because it is her choice isnt really settling. Youre presumably picking the model and color you really want, and now just need to look under the hood and see how it runs:) Link to post Share on other sites
RobM Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Decide what you're passionate about and find like minded people, take community college classes, art, music, photography, sports, join a club, take up a sport like tennis, do volunteer work. Just find something you like and join a group of people that like it to, it makes it so much easier to meet people. Join a bike club (bicycle not motor), mountain bikers are some of the nicest people you could ever meet. I've always found it's easier to meet people when you're not actually looking, it just happens. But, you have to put yourself in situations where it can happen. Link to post Share on other sites
Ms. Joolie Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 I think a new perspective on dating would be helpful. It really is about getting to know the guy, having a good time and knowing our relationship wants/needs. If you are having trouble finding guys to go out with, maybe it's because they pick up on the fact that you are just SO ready to settle down. Just a thought. But it does sound like you are a little to anxious to get there, as opposed to enjoying the journey. Maybe you just got out of a series of dead end relationships? Or are you just not finding guys and getting dates? I heard a lot of things out of your post. lol. Personally, I'm tired of guys I meet at bars and clubs. Really need to focus on getting to know the men at different places I frequent outside the night scene. Link to post Share on other sites
BeautifulMan Posted November 22, 2009 Share Posted November 22, 2009 Girls need to stop WAITING for a guy to pick them out. You need to dig in and be straight forward about meeting men and saying you're not interested or want to be friends if they don't match up to you. Link to post Share on other sites
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