lsb Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 I am not sure what to make of this or what to do. But I have been seeing this guy for a couple months now. And I will admit he has a sketchy past, but I wanted to give him a chance because I like him and he seems like a nice guy. His past includes being a drug addict and alcoholic and he also told me a sex addict. But it is weird though because I do not see him like that. Anyways, I have seen a couple text messages on his phone to another girl saying things such as i miss you, i thought we would have been together and if we were together we would have so much fun. When i asked him about the girl (i did not directly ask about the messages)...he said I think she has a crush on me. I asked him do you want to be with her and he said no. So, I dunno what to think or what to do ? Even if he does not want to be with her, why would he send her these types of messages? Link to post Share on other sites
Fall for you Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Sounds like you should be looking at his actions not his words. He may say he may not want to be with her, but his texts say otherwise. Confront him about the texts again and if he again denies it, would you really want to stay with a liar who is displaying interest in another person? Link to post Share on other sites
jerseyboy Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Yeah Im missing it as well. If those are out going messages then you have a problem. Link to post Share on other sites
serialgf Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 the first thing that came to my mind was why are you looking at his texts? i'm just wondering... it seems like two months is still a young relationship... i guess since you've confronted him about it he's okay with you looking through his phone? my second question is when did he send the texts? was it recently or before you got together? i would need a bit more detail before giving you advice - what's his background with this chick? how serious is your relationship? etc... good luck! sgf Link to post Share on other sites
lkjh Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 You know his resume, he admitted it and you still dated him? This is going to sound mean but that is one of the stupidest things a person can do. I know people always talk about the few success cases but in general a person who has been addicted to drugs, alcohol, and has a "sketchy past" is not someone you date unless you find those qualities attractive. Protect yourself and judge people by their actions. Don't let hormones do your thinking, use your brain Link to post Share on other sites
Author lsb Posted November 20, 2009 Author Share Posted November 20, 2009 Well, I was looking at his texts because he was looking at mine, so I figured, if he can look at mine, I can look at his. These texts were recently. Supposedly they are just friends. And she herself has a boyfriend too. I also know they met on a dating site because he wrote an abreviation next to her name - actually I notice he has alot like that. Do guys normally keep the numbers of girls they met on dating sites in their phone? Link to post Share on other sites
Fall for you Posted November 20, 2009 Share Posted November 20, 2009 Anyways, I have seen a couple text messages on his phone to another girl saying things such as i miss you, i thought we would have been together and if we were together we would have so much fun. Friends do NOT talk to eachother like this, hell my best friend is a girl and don't come close to saying things like this, he's keeping her number because he WANTS her. Link to post Share on other sites
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