Ariadne Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Are you serious? "No wonder he got angry?" You make it sound like it's the OP's fault that the guy was ready to put his hands on her! I'm not sure what exactly happened there, but knocking on someone's door can be confrontational. If it were me, I'd talk to the guy somewhere neutral and I wouldn't bring up the incident. Link to post Share on other sites
mem11363 Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Ariadne, I disagree with just about everything you have said. Knocking on a neighbors door is not confrontational. This guy is bullying a 9 year old child. There is clearly something wrong with him. I'm not sure what exactly happened there, but knocking on someone's door can be confrontational. If it were me, I'd talk to the guy somewhere neutral and I wouldn't bring up the incident. Link to post Share on other sites
Author silverfish Posted November 25, 2009 Author Share Posted November 25, 2009 I'm not sure what exactly happened there, but knocking on someone's door can be confrontational. If it were me, I'd talk to the guy somewhere neutral and I wouldn't bring up the incident. I went round to speak to his wife, because his kid was knocking on my door and running away. The man was confrontationl previous to this with my son, so he should have expected something to be said. There isn't anywhere neutral, apart from in the street, in front of everyone. That would definitely have made things worse because it would have humiliated him. If I just talked to him and didn't bring up him shouting abuse at my son I'd be giving him the message that it's ok to keep on doing that. Also, my sons would probably lose respect for me - he looks to me to protect him, and as an example of how to behave. I've lways taught my children to stand up for themselves, so I'd look stupid if I didn't do it myself. Link to post Share on other sites
Ariadne Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 If I just talked to him and didn't bring up him shouting abuse at my son I'd be giving him the message that it's ok to keep on doing that. Also, my sons would probably lose respect for me - he looks to me to protect him, and as an example of how to behave. I've lways taught my children to stand up for themselves, so I'd look stupid if I didn't do it myself. Yes, but that should have been dealt with the moment it happened (what's going on?), to talk to the guy about that much later is for trouble. Anyway, good luck with this mess. It seems like you are handling it alright, hopefully things will work out in peace. Happy Thanksgiving! Link to post Share on other sites
Author silverfish Posted November 25, 2009 Author Share Posted November 25, 2009 Yes, but that should have been dealt with the moment it happened (what's going on?), to talk to the guy about that much later is for trouble. Anyway, good luck with this mess. It seems like you are handling it alright, hopefully things will work out in peace. Happy Thanksgiving! I guess some people just enjoy arguing ..... I don't see how 'when' I talked to him would have made any difference, the outcome would've been the same. I could think myself in circles wondering if this whole thing was somehow my fault but it isn't. He's done it before, probably he'll do it again My son was pretty happy I talked the guy anyway, and it's all quiet so far, so maybe he got the message not to f*ck with us, if not, he'll get it next time. We don't celebrate Thanksgiving over here, but have a good one anyway Link to post Share on other sites
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