Kis

[kis]

So this question is for the guys. Is it really true that you cant maintain a close friendship with an attractive female without wanting to sleep with her? Yes its the old can men and women really be friends question.

[A O]

For the majority of people, apparently so. The more handsome the guy, the more social proofed he is, the more female friends he has, the less true this statement may become.

 

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[heysenberg]

I can tell you this for sure.

 

Most man can't stand too long with a beautiful girl without thinking dirty, but there are some guys who have a lower sexual desire, or are deeply in love with someone, so there are exceptions.

 

I have many female friends that I really appreciate as friends only, but it doesn't mean I don't fantasize about them once in while

[Devil Inside]

Well. I have some very attractive female friends. I can't lie and say that I do not entertain sleeping with them...but that does not mean that I am going to.

 

Why are you asking?

[NoIDidn't]

I am not a guy, but am a woman that has had many, MANY, MANY male friends over the years (tomboy, basketball player, entertainer, just get along better with men....).

 

But it has been my experience that men can maintain a friendship with an attractive woman ....until she's off the market. The minute I got married, they disappeared. LOL. Seriously.

 

I asked them what was up with that, and was basically told that their thoughts even during our friendship of me were impure. I was a friend that was more of a sexual desire than a friend.

 

But honestly, I think the same is true of us women as well. I don't have a ton of male friends that I find unattractive - for the same reason. Just being honest.

[jerseyboy]

If shes really physically attractive to you, not just attractive in general, then there has to be something about ehr that balances it all out and turns you off.

 

I have a friend and she is beautiful. Not just pretty, but beautiful. Angelic looking really.

 

We met at the gym, started talking, and she has a way of speaking that is a little too "too much information" for me, and that cooled me off some to her. We were flirtatious, but even from the first date I could sense "needy and godl digger" so had no interest in pursuing it as a relationship. Or even a one night stand lol, since we knew too may of the same people. Cost benefit wasnt worth it.

 

We still tlaked and did things with each toher occasionally as friends, and my instincts were spot on. She s amajor gold digger. Is seeking status/wealth in marriage, and more than willing to date men far older than her and I to achieve it. As a result sahe tends to be very promiscous as well. So she isnt a paragon of human virtue by any means.

 

But she is fun, inteligent, otherwise sensitive and giving, so I do enjoy occasionally going out for dinner, drinks, or even a movie. And we talk fairly regularly about our personal lives.

 

Shes the most obvious example, but tis true of toehrs as well for reasons that arent as negative.

 

I think at some point you get to the too much informatioj point with a friend where any chance of having sexual desires for them evaporate. Especially with women as they tend to be far more graphic and honest about problems they are having lol

[seibert253]

I have a few female friends, some close, and to be honest I've thought about tagging all of them. Even had some opportunities, but I would never go there.

 

Even with all of my wife's faults, I wouldn't trade her for any of them. Perfectly happy with what I have.