trippi1432 Posted November 27, 2009 Share Posted November 27, 2009 If it were only that simple. A spouse wants to leave, then there is the door. In most cases though, they take the cowards way out and set themselves up for another in order to go through that door. While they are busy setting themselves up, they are lying to their spouse, still having sex with them, exposing them to std's while carrying on that nothing is wrong, everything is righty-ho until the day they get found out. They very rarely confess. They want the best of both worlds. A place to be grounded and a place for fun and games at the expense of those that love them. Thank you for that post HnD.....:bunny: Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 A place to be grounded and a place for fun and games at the expense of those that love them. Great post H&D. Sadly, the games rarely stop once they are gone.:( Rollercoaster rolls on! TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 Great post H&D. Sadly, the games rarely stop once they are gone.:( Rollercoaster rolls on! TOJAZ YEP!!!!! It's all about them. huh? Talk about selfish. It's as if "they" never knew what it was like to care or think about somebody else. ME. ME. ME. That is the all encompassing mindset. PATHETIC. COWARD. LIAR. COMMITMENT. PAIN. DESTROY. All words for the cheats to think about. But they won't. It's all about them. Can I get a season pass for the rollercoaster ride? I'm gonna need it. This sucks ... Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 They all see it eventually FL, unfornutately its usually too late by then. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted November 28, 2009 Author Share Posted November 28, 2009 They all see it eventually FL, unfornutately its usually too late by then. TOJAZ I am not looking forward to a day when it is too late and she crawls back. I know some would relish that day!! But if it ever happens to me it will hurt me tons to tell her "sorry - too late". Because I now what she is now (18 yr old BF!) - this is not the REAL her. But I can't wait. PEACE! Link to post Share on other sites
tojaz Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 I am not looking forward to a day when it is too late and she crawls back. I know some would relish that day!! But if it ever happens to me it will hurt me tons to tell her "sorry - too late". Because I now what she is now (18 yr old BF!) - this is not the REAL her. But I can't wait. PEACE! I know what you mean FL. We work so hard on ourselves and finding a way to be ok, then all of a sudden they bring it all back to the surface. Opens the wounds we had thought had long since healed. Enough to bring even the strongest of us to their knees. TOJAZ Link to post Share on other sites
trippi1432 Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 I am not looking forward to a day when it is too late and she crawls back. I know some would relish that day!! But if it ever happens to me it will hurt me tons to tell her "sorry - too late". Because I now what she is now (18 yr old BF!) - this is not the REAL her. But I can't wait. PEACE! I know what you mean FL. We work so hard on ourselves and finding a way to be ok, then all of a sudden they bring it all back to the surface. Opens the wounds we had thought had long since healed. Enough to bring even the strongest of us to their knees. TOJAZ I struggle with this myself since the STBXH pulled his antics last week of wanting to come back, it's not easy....even after you tell them "sorry - too late". It does open up the wounds, and those wounds can go very far back.... Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 hopes and dreams. you said everything I think to myself. Thank you. Back to the thread................ to be completely honest Darling, You knew at the beggining of our time together you didnt want a deep relationship with me. When you got pregnant I was sooooooo very very happy and proud of you but to be honest I hate being a Dad. The reality of it was awful. Kids tie me down and restrict MY life. I am so excited about my future without you and the kids. I can travel, screw who I want and not have to care or at least put on a front I do. I hate the fact you went out last night looked great and attracted alot of attention. How very dare you snog a man more attractive than me, taller than me, slimmer than me and 10 years younger than me????? Why are you feeling soooooooooo over me today? Hate it. Get back down and back on the rollercoaster before I phone you and tell you I have made a mistake. yours Lowly Worm Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted November 29, 2009 Author Share Posted November 29, 2009 hopes and dreams. you said everything I think to myself. Thank you. Back to the thread................ to be completely honest Darling, You knew at the beggining of our time together you didnt want a deep relationship with me. When you got pregnant I was sooooooo very very happy and proud of you but to be honest I hate being a Dad. The reality of it was awful. Kids tie me down and restrict MY life. I am so excited about my future without you and the kids. I can travel, screw who I want and not have to care or at least put on a front I do. I hate the fact you went out last night looked great and attracted alot of attention. How very dare you snog a man more attractive than me, taller than me, slimmer than me and 10 years younger than me????? Why are you feeling soooooooooo over me today? Hate it. Get back down and back on the rollercoaster before I phone you and tell you I have made a mistake. yours Lowly Worm "Lowly Worm". Can I use that one? I'm sure others could use it as well!! Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Share Posted November 30, 2009 Has anyone ever had a cheating WS that was 100% honest with them from day1? I would think not because if they had enough respect and dignity to be honest then they probably would not even have cheated to begin with. Isn't the act of adultery or cheating a lie in and of itself? Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted November 30, 2009 Share Posted November 30, 2009 it soooooooooooo is! My lowly worm is still sunning himself with his next victim. He hasnt asked after the kids once (two weeks now) Im actually pleased because NC is helping me no end.......its also helping 6yr old daughter that has wet the bed every nightsince he left till 5 nights ago. Says it all really! x Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted November 30, 2009 Author Share Posted November 30, 2009 it soooooooooooo is! My lowly worm is still sunning himself with his next victim. He hasnt asked after the kids once (two weeks now) Im actually pleased because NC is helping me no end.......its also helping 6yr old daughter that has wet the bed every nightsince he left till 5 nights ago. Says it all really! x Great!! NC is to help YOU, not to help the M. I am at 21 days of NC today. I have not been counting. (I had to look at a calendar now to even get the 21!) That's cool that the daughter is getting some beneift! Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 Look neet, I have been away with my new chick, I have doubts I have made a good choice. She wont let me fart infront of her so im all blown up and in agony most of the time! Hey sh*t she wont even iron my blummin shirts.......I am going to go on a charm offencive because I recon I can come home anytime because you love me sooooooooooooo much I could get away with it again but have you to do all the s*itty stuff. Perfect! So watch your back Im gonna try to get you back. lowly worm My reply................................F**** off matey Im soooooooo over you! :laugh: Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted December 9, 2009 Author Share Posted December 9, 2009 Has the lowly worm reared its ugly head again? Link to post Share on other sites
Author FeelingLonely98 Posted December 9, 2009 Author Share Posted December 9, 2009 Hi Betrayed Spouse - I always thought I loved my cats but apparently I don't. I want YOU to take care of MY two cats after I walk out on you to date & scr*w a HS boy who is 29 yrs younger than me. (Makes me feel like a teenager again even though I am almost 50!) You buy all the cat's food, litter, etc. Feed them twice a day, clean their litter box frequently. Give them affection because I won't be here anymore. Let them sit on your lap now because I am no longer here. (Remember how they would always jump on MY lap and it sort of made you jealous ... well, now they have only you.) I'm too busy having "Fun"! Oh and by the way, thanks for taking care of my son for the last 3 months and however long he will stay with you. You keep buying all his food and other needs in addition to cat stuff - you know I can't help with that because I am trying to save $2000 for a down payment on my apt. so me and the latest "love of my life" can finally shack up everynight! (This time it is true love and will last forever!) Sincerely, your STBXW!!! Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 fraid so duck!! all smarmy and lick lick on the phone "hi honey, aww how you doing? i have missed you all so much" puke city. I was nice and jolly on the phone to him and resisted the urge to say " hey mate I am flippin brilliant! yep I had a date with a bloke last week and he is coming round for a shag on saturday!" hahahahah it sounds like his holiday didnt go so very well...............3 weeks with him and his premature ejaculations have probably hit home to the "good girl". hee hee so he is fetching the kids on friday after a month of not seeing them. I on the other hand intend to party all weekend with the girls and have lots of layins!! ta for asking xxxxxxxxxx Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 strange isnt it that our dog Earl was "the best dog in the world" till he left. Now he just boots him out of the way and wont pet him. Hey If i could train the damn pooch to growl at him I would!! hahah Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted December 9, 2009 Share Posted December 9, 2009 hey honey, im back.................you want me yeh?? im all that. Please dont do your hair and look pretty when I fetch the kids it annoys me that you are not sniveling and begging my return. Hey i will worm and worm again lowly worm Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted December 18, 2009 Share Posted December 18, 2009 :mad: Sh*t Neet, I didnt do my homework. I have shot myself in the foot. The letter you sent to my parents telling them if they are not kinder to your children you will insist I can only see them at our old home made me do some research. Because you wouldnt marry me I havent even got the right to see them!!!! did you know this all along?? Hey its not as if I am bothered as I dont really want to see them anyway but it means you have been more than genourous up to this point and that annoys me beacuse you are so strong and thoughtful for their needs even thought i was a b*stard to you! As ever I take my parents side cutting charlies hair so short was soooooooo right. I dont care she has cried all week My mother is always right because she is so supeiriour to you. In fact we all are. You are thick we know best. You wont get the appology that you need to both yourself and Charlie over these insidents. I dont beleive you will go through with your threat to them. They did nothing wrong in my eyes and the solicitor they consulted must be wrong too. They are at present trawling all the solicitors till they find one that tells them they were right to scalp a little girls hair without her mothers or her permission. The fact they called her fat too...........well she is a bit porky so it was a statement of fact. Again we dont care she is constantly asking if she is fat and upset. We were right to tell her.......she is 6 you know! hmf they still havent found a solicitor that agrees yet........ Lowley worm:mad: Link to post Share on other sites
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