MAC Posted December 13, 2003 Share Posted December 13, 2003 Well I'll try to make this short and sweet. I've been seeing my girlfriend now for 2 1/2 years and we love each other alot. I try my best to treat her with the up most respect and give her everything I can. We just arrived home for the holidays from University after exams and yesterday I decided to go x-mas shopping for her. I picked up alot of fun things that I knew she would enjoy including candle stuff, body lotion/sparkles, pants and a sweater, 3 thongs and 2 boxer briefs (she likes the female versions of boxer briefs alot), slippers, skimpy under top to match the boxer briefs and some video games...... shes a gamer =) So I am home with my parents for the holidays and and this morning my mother woke me and told me that my dad opened my mail that came for me a few weeks before I got home, he said he thought it was for him. I just acted kinda shocked (carrying on) and she said "well its not like it was women's undewear or anything". I said "I know better then to have women's underwear mailed home" and I laughed..... She then got very serious and said that I better not have bought my girlfriend underwear, that I better not buy her underwear until we are married and she has a ring on her finger. I just shrugged it off and went back to bed. So when I woke up later I started thinking about my mother's comments. She has never steered me wrong before and shes thought me to have great respect for the women in my life. I tend to treat girls very well and most seem to comment on that fact. "You are too good to me, you are too good to her" etc..... I hear these comments alot. Anyways, to get to the root of my post..... Is it dissrespectful to buy your girl some cool undies for x-mas? Or any other occassion? Last year I bought her string thong, though I asked her if she minded me buying her something sexual before hand...... This year I just went out and bought something without her asking. She seemed to like my last year's gift alot and she has worn them a number of times. Do other women think like my mom does? Should you only buy stuff like this if you are married? I know there are many liberal people out there that will say no, but I do want to marry my girlfriend....... I love her so much. I wouldn't buy something sexual for anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 13, 2003 Share Posted December 13, 2003 You have to think though, are they gifts for her, or are they gifts for you? I know you know what I mean. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabess Posted December 13, 2003 Share Posted December 13, 2003 Great point Dyer....hadn't thought of it that way before. I don't know MAC.....it really depends on the female you are buying for and if such a gift would embarass her. I know LOTS of guys who buy sexy things for their girlfriends/wives. It's also their excuse for googling the Victoria's Secret Magazine at work all day!! Often times they will ask me which one I would like better when choosing a certain item. However, your Mom is not totally off base. Generally, you only purchase such a gift for someone you are intimate with. Mom's LIKE TO BELIEVE they've raised 'anice young man who are gentleman'....not one 'drooling over their girlfriend in thongs!'. So, your Mom is right...socially speaking. Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted December 13, 2003 Share Posted December 13, 2003 Your Mom is talking about the rules from when she was your age. Things are more relaxed now. You have done what you should have - the first time you made such a purchase, you asked your GF if it was ok. She was, and has worn your other gift often. You two are the ones to establish your own boundaries and you have. Your mother does not need to know intimate details about your relationship! Well, unless you're 13 maybe! Link to post Share on other sites
Author MAC Posted December 13, 2003 Author Share Posted December 13, 2003 Well I am 22 and my girlfriend is 21. We are very intimate with each other and have been since we first started going out. Link to post Share on other sites
vixen Posted December 14, 2003 Share Posted December 14, 2003 i think it's quite allright. If someone i was intamate with for over 2 years bough tme undies i'd be just happy about it. I mean you did buy her undies you know she likes, not undies you know you like, so i think your in the safe zone, dont worry about mom, just smile and go, yes mom. >_< vixen Link to post Share on other sites
cindy0039 Posted December 14, 2003 Share Posted December 14, 2003 I agree. Considering your age and the fact that you've been with this girl for quite sometime, I think it's perfectly fine for you to buy her what you did. You sound like a very sweet boyfriend. Link to post Share on other sites
tyt Posted January 3, 2004 Share Posted January 3, 2004 uh..........YEA Link to post Share on other sites
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