9Lives Posted November 24, 2009 Share Posted November 24, 2009 I just wonder is this something alot of others experience. i sleep well but then the first thing on my mind when I wake up is the ex and it makes the start of the day very hard. I cry or I come here to ease the pain. Is this something alot of other people are experiencing. how do you deal with it? Link to post Share on other sites
Odyssey Posted November 24, 2009 Share Posted November 24, 2009 Hell yeah...and it sucks (you wouldn't be human if you didn't feel pain). But it will get better 9Lives. Link to post Share on other sites
cdt76 Posted November 24, 2009 Share Posted November 24, 2009 It's very normal. it's the hardest thing to overcome and still try to get out of bed and make your day the best it can be. Just know that he/she is doing the same thing. The difference is only in the direction you and the other are going in your life. There is nothing you can do to stop the thoughts, other than just know that you can make your life better. You can become better. It's very hard and we are all going through a form of this, even at different times. Just be as strong as you can be and accept your pain and aches for what they are....love. Link to post Share on other sites
Printer Posted November 24, 2009 Share Posted November 24, 2009 I just wonder is this something alot of others experience. i sleep well but then the first thing on my mind when I wake up is the ex and it makes the start of the day very hard. I cry or I come here to ease the pain. Is this something alot of other people are experiencing. how do you deal with it? I just wish I could get a good nights sleep..... Been 10 months now and I still wake up at all hours thinking about her. Tried everything, tablets, beer and hypnothearpy. Nothing seems to work. It's so hard to sleep in an empty bed when she has been there for the last 24 years. Link to post Share on other sites
stace79 Posted November 24, 2009 Share Posted November 24, 2009 With you all. Even when I'm out honestly having fun with friends or family, he's always in the back of my head. Heck, I'm starting to accept that the break up is final and we really aren't meant for each other, and I still miss him. How do you miss something you know is bad for you? Must be a masochist in disguise... Link to post Share on other sites
floods88 Posted November 24, 2009 Share Posted November 24, 2009 I just wonder is this something alot of others experience. i sleep well but then the first thing on my mind when I wake up is the ex and it makes the start of the day very hard. I cry or I come here to ease the pain. Is this something alot of other people are experiencing. how do you deal with it? yep... im going through this too. its getting less painful though... so it wont last forever. i think we all should just look forward to the day when our exes are a distant memory, and the way forward with this is to get out there in the world and experience different things that you wouldnt have done when you were with them maybe? itll be okay Link to post Share on other sites
almostpassedit Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 yes that is normal, that happen to me as well when i split with my ex 2 years ago. first thing when i woke up, last thing before i went to sleep, it was pretty bad, i had to force myrself to read a book to drown out her voice just so i could keep going and distract myself.... it lasted about a year but was snapped out of place once i formed a emotional connection with someone else. its like the closer you get with a new person, the more it goes away. oh yeah, it took about 650+ days NC for it go away and its still not gone, i just awoke and i said to myself "where is EX_Name", i must of said it about twice before i realized she sh was gone, this coming from a person who has been nc 2 years. Link to post Share on other sites
DenverBachelor Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 I just wonder is this something alot of others experience. i sleep well but then the first thing on my mind when I wake up is the ex and it makes the start of the day very hard. I cry or I come here to ease the pain. Is this something alot of other people are experiencing. how do you deal with it? That happened to me during the first 2 weeks. I'm around 45 days out from the initial breakup and I'm pretty much over her. Occasionally I'll get a little sad thinking about a memory but, all in all, it was for the best. I've been getting out a lot more and having the time of my life. You'll get past it. I would recommend shock therapy if this continues for another week or two. Link to post Share on other sites
LostInLA Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Yup, that's what I experience even now from time to time and it's been 8 months since my break up. Link to post Share on other sites
trueblue72ny Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Yes, it is totally normal to think about your ex when you wake up. its impossible to just turn that switch off. I know I did for the longest time too. like a year! but it does get better over time. and I am thankful I don’t think about her first thing anymore. I think about some one else now when I wake up! it just takes time to get them out of your system but you will. and you will be glad! Link to post Share on other sites
illadelph Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 this just happened to me as well and it's been about 4 months since the break up. it's such an overwhelming feeling that sometimes I feel like I can't catch my breath. and it happens the most intensely when I dream about my ex, which still happens all the time. it gets easier ... some mornings, if I'm lucky, my mind hits another subject and the wake up process is better on those days. on the other hand, on the days like today, I try and wake myself up as quickly as possible and I repeat some "mantras" to myself: "just relax", "you're better and stronger than this" and "he's not worth this pain, let it go, just let it go." I hate how weak this entire process makes me feel but I know that it will become easier, it can't get any harder. Link to post Share on other sites
SushiOji Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Today I woke up to the sound of my ex's voice telling me good morning. It's gonna be a rough day. Link to post Share on other sites
Broseph Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 This songs about staying up and stressing, great tune mind you Link to post Share on other sites
USMCHokie Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Yep...waking up in the morning was the worst time for me...I wouldn't want to wake up...I would just doze back off and hope it was just a dream that she was gone...then I'd wake up and realize it was real and I'd start getting pains... It's not as bad now, but I still think about her when I wake up and shower...mornings certainly aren't fun... Link to post Share on other sites
Ultiman Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Its been like 40 days for me going to sleep thinking about her, dreaming about her, and then waking up thinking about her. I now understand the movie eternal sunshine of the spotless mind and why someone would want to erase there ex Link to post Share on other sites
SushiOji Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 Its been like 40 days for me going to sleep thinking about her, dreaming about her, and then waking up thinking about her. I now understand the movie eternal sunshine of the spotless mind and why someone would want to erase there ex I was thinking about that movie the other day but I don't think I can handle watching it right now. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 YES it's normal! It's annoying when I dream of him, usually a sad dream or bad dream about him then wake up thinking about him, but even if I don't dream about him I wake up thinking about him every day. I think it's cos when I wake life feels pointless cos he's not here. Last night was no better though, I had a nice dream about us, we were moving to a lovely new house and I felt so happy, I haven't felt happy in reality since about march. Woke up and spent most of the morning crying. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 And I don't sleep well since he left and for the months leading up to it, I rely on sleeping tabs most nights. I just wonder is this something alot of others experience. i sleep well but then the first thing on my mind when I wake up is the ex and it makes the start of the day very hard. I cry or I come here to ease the pain. Is this something alot of other people are experiencing. how do you deal with it? Link to post Share on other sites
nobmagnet Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 I recon I am very lucky indeed. I like having the bed to myself! I only think about him in my waking hours.............................constantly. Whats he doing?Why isnt he hurting like me? how could he do it to the kids and me? Why did he change into a git? could I have mended it................no I couldnt have. Link to post Share on other sites
andreww Posted November 29, 2009 Share Posted November 29, 2009 its been 7 months for me i still have dreams about her everynight. well not about her buts shes always there without a doubt. then when i wake up i think of her. Link to post Share on other sites
Arabella Posted November 29, 2009 Share Posted November 29, 2009 We've been broken up for four days and my subconscious betrayed me every night. It's much harder to keep a grip on my emotions when I'm asleep, and I dream of him. Or I wake up for a few seconds just to check my phone and go back to sleep... only to wake up an hour later and do the same. He's still the first thing that pops into my head when I finally wake up... but at least once I'm awake, I'm rational and able to get myself in-check again. Arabella Link to post Share on other sites
madrugada Posted November 30, 2009 Share Posted November 30, 2009 I think about her first thing in the morning, last thing at night and all the hours in between. Last night just as I was drifting off I felt her move against me. It was like she was right there. I didn't sleep at all after that. People keep mentioning Eternal Sunshine. It's one of my favorite movies, but I can't take it right now because it was the first movie we watched together, about a week into our relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Seymore Posted November 30, 2009 Share Posted November 30, 2009 11 months out of a 15 month relationship and I still have mornings like that. It didn't slow down until maybe the 5th or 6th month after the breakup. Link to post Share on other sites
sean1970 Posted November 30, 2009 Share Posted November 30, 2009 11 months out of a 15 month relationship and I still have mornings like that. It didn't slow down until maybe the 5th or 6th month after the breakup. That is where I am at, the 6 month mark (December). Odd when I feel 'good' as Im waiting for the that wave of greif to remind me Im still out at sea. While I have done things to improve my life, I have left some things unresolved. With the pain dimming, its really time for the hard part; putting together a life Im happy living with or without anyone else. Link to post Share on other sites
Template Posted November 30, 2009 Share Posted November 30, 2009 If you are still in extreme emotional pain, it would be abnormal if you didn't. I do still think about her every now and then, and it's still painful, but I'll always remember when she said, "I don't deserve you!"... She's right!! Link to post Share on other sites
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