lizita14 Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Ever since my sister turned 18, she's been in a lousy mood at home. My mom could not tell her to clean her room without her attacking her. The last couple of weeks before she ran away she was in a really bad mood. But the actual day she ran away she wasnt even mad. My parents are worried sick about her and I spent 3 days without sleeping trying to figure out where she was at. But I have no idea...Im her older sister and she cant stand me and I didnt even get into a fight when she left. I just feel so bad for my parents because I see How much they worry over her. Just today she decided to communicate after 5 days. She said shes not coming home and to leave her alone, this is killing my parents. Because they tried to reason with her and she doesnt want to come home, and we dont even know if shes ok, really. Im just so worried I hope she doesnt regret it when its too late. My dad was adviced not to be too stressed out because he can get a heart attack, and hes been stressed lately with this....I hope its not too late.... Link to post Share on other sites
Author lizita14 Posted November 25, 2009 Author Share Posted November 25, 2009 any advice??? Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 any advice??? Not really, lizita. You could contact local community services and/or teen outreach programs, and see if they have any suggestions/resources for your family. I'm sure that it is very upsetting and stressful for all of you at home. Other options are family counseling and/or individual, so that you'll each have a private and safe place to vent and express your thoughts, fears and feelings. Sorry I can't think of much else. Hugs. I'll keep hope for positive outcomes, and ask the angels to keep your sister safe. Link to post Share on other sites
Author lizita14 Posted November 26, 2009 Author Share Posted November 26, 2009 Thank you for the advice. I as well hope that she is safe and rethinks this whole situation. With tomorrow being thanksgiving everything is gonna be weird without her...I hope she realizes that family is the one thing ur gonna have that is gonna support and want you no matter what. Link to post Share on other sites
Ronni_W Posted November 26, 2009 Share Posted November 26, 2009 The thing is, lizita, that FOR HER she could not have felt or seen it that way. We do not usually run away from people who we realize will support us no matter what. I'm not saying that she was looking at things objectively, only that she must have felt unhappy / unsupported in order to be able to leave the way she did, don't you think? I guess...if we put ourselves in HER shoes, then something was obviously not good for her. And EVEN IF her perceptions were distorted, her experience of her family life still was not all that she hoped or wanted it to be. If it was, she would not have run away, I don't think. I suspect that it's very difficult for you to see your parents suffer, but it's also okay to wonder what it is that your sister is suffering about. Do you have a counselor or pastor that you can speak with? It may help just to get your own thoughts and feelings sorted out. Of course, since it is Thanksgiving...maybe that will help her to realize what she does have to be grateful for within your family unit. Wishing all of you the best. Link to post Share on other sites
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