Skelator Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 what is wrong here.. So, me and my gf have been dating for almost 2 yrs..we have had our ups and downs. we are currently on a break because of this problem.. she has guy friends..im okay with that BUT...is it okay that a guy who recently broke up with his gf is now talking to my chick.. Problem...she claims they used to be good friends in school.. now this guy is coming over to her house to watch sunny in philly seasons.. i explain that i dont think thats good to be doing while in a relationship. it would be different if it was a group..but they solo mish when im busy...:/ the reason i dont llike this is because she was having problewms with her bf of 3yrs when i met her.. we were hangin out watchin movies like they are now...What guy comes over at 1am to finish season 3 of a show... i ask her what shes up to and she says i have absolutely nothing to worry about... ive asked multiple times in the past month or so... what the **** is going on... ??? Link to post Share on other sites
traderho Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Dude you need to set boundaries pronto. There is no way in hell I would let my GF spend any time alone with a guy at her place let alone at 1:00 am!??! In addition there is no way in hell I would have a girl come over to my place alone to watch "tv". I respect my partner too much and would never do that to her. Partners in good relationships don't put themselves in those types of situations. Offer to watch it with the two of them as an alternative if she gives you a hard time. Just read some random posts on here and you will know whats coming if it hasn't happened already. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 what is wrong here.. So, me and my gf have been dating for almost 2 yrs..we have had our ups and downs. we are currently on a break because of this problem.. she has guy friends..im okay with that BUT...is it okay that a guy who recently broke up with his gf is now talking to my chick.. Problem...she claims they used to be good friends in school.. now this guy is coming over to her house to watch sunny in philly seasons.. i explain that i dont think thats good to be doing while in a relationship. it would be different if it was a group..but they solo mish when im busy...:/ the reason i dont llike this is because she was having problewms with her bf of 3yrs when i met her.. we were hangin out watchin movies like they are now...What guy comes over at 1am to finish season 3 of a show... i ask her what shes up to and she says i have absolutely nothing to worry about... ive asked multiple times in the past month or so... what the **** is going on... ??? She cheats with you, she cheats on you. That's just the way it is. I'd drop her now before she has chance to fall for this other guy, it might bring her round. Otherwise, get prepared for getting dumped. No doubt the bf she was with b4 you heard all the same rubbish. Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 You need to set clear cut boundries. She needs to respect that and maintain those, or she goes by by. You need to make it crystal clear you do not approve of what she's been doing, you do not think it's right, no matter how "innocent" she thinks it may be, and you do not want her to "hang out" with this guy alone. Do not TELL her she cannot "hang out" with this dude, but tell her you wished she would not do this, but you are not going to tell her what to do. Simple. It's obvious you have a problem with what she's been doing, and you're not comfortable with this. This should give you cause for alarm, because if something hasn't happened already, it soon will. If she loves you she will respect what and how you feel, and would end these "meetings". Give her the choice to end these. If she does, great, it shows how much you truely mean to her. If she doesn't, then you know she's selfish and what she wants is more important than how you feel. If that's the case, NEXT. Peace, keep us updated. Link to post Share on other sites
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