confusedmuch Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 I met this guy online and we've been talking on the phone for a couple weeks now. I definitely like him and think there's potential... We haven't, however, met in person yet, although we have shared photos. He texted me today saying that he misses me even though he hasn't met me yet. I just told him that was sweet. He followed up with saying I was the kind of woman he could fall for. I just said "aww". Then he asked if that was okay and he went a little quiet. I do like him, but when I haven't even met him yet, I'm hesitant to completely let all my emotions show, I guess. He does seem to be a bit insecure as he'll ask me here and there in different ways if I like him and I've always told him that I do. Yet he continues to ask... ?? So I guess my question is when he says things like "i miss you" and "I could fall for you", how can I respond without making him feel like I'm rejecting him, yet without lying to myself. If that makes any sense. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Jam Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 He sounds insecure and needy, but I will tell you that if you really do like him and it gets to a RL...then he'll be very loyal and good to you. I think it's on you. I personally say you should at least go out on one date with him and see if there's chemistry. With all the women I see complain about guys who do this...they later complain how the guys who don't come on like that seem hot and cold or they neglect her. Frankly, with nice guys like that...many will take advice. Tell him you like him the way you have, but also tell him the insecurity is a total turnoff. Tell him if he's going to keep asking you all the time about how you feel then it won't work out. As for the "miss you" thing...I dunno what to tell you. This again comes down to seeing if he's just needy for any woman, or maybe he really does like you. Despite the media portrayal of men...we do fall for personalities with good photos. You can chat with a girl for weeks and really get to like her. Maybe you're just that cool? Link to post Share on other sites
aerogurl87 Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 OP in all honesty I'd kill to have a guy like that again. My ex was like that and at first it scared the crap out of me, but in the end he turned out to be a pretty good boyfriend (till I cheated on him and then things went downhill). But aside from that happening, I don't think I could've been happier with a guy. So give him a chance, yeah there is the possibility that he could be a crazy but then there is also the chance that he's being truly sincere and will turn out to be a great man for you if all goes well in person as it's been going online. Link to post Share on other sites
DustySaltus Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 OP, this is why you need to meet the guy as soon as possible. To me after a third contact with the person if things are going well I would offer to meet up with them for a cup of coffee or a drink. This way you can feel him out, get a good idea of who he is without developing too lofty expectations. The longer you talk online, the closer you are to fantasy and not reality. Yeah, sometimes reality sucks but I'd rather know that sooner than latter. I do agree with D-JAM though that if things do work out and progress he most likely will be a good and loyal dude. A bit sensitive, but good intentions. Link to post Share on other sites
northstar1 Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 I met this guy online and we've been talking on the phone for a couple weeks now. I definitely like him and think there's potential... We haven't, however, met in person yet, although we have shared photos. He texted me today saying that he misses me even though he hasn't met me yet. I just told him that was sweet. He followed up with saying I was the kind of woman he could fall for. I just said "aww". Then he asked if that was okay and he went a little quiet. I do like him, but when I haven't even met him yet, I'm hesitant to completely let all my emotions show, I guess. He does seem to be a bit insecure as he'll ask me here and there in different ways if I like him and I've always told him that I do. Yet he continues to ask... ?? So I guess my question is when he says things like "i miss you" and "I could fall for you", how can I respond without making him feel like I'm rejecting him, yet without lying to myself. If that makes any sense. This fellow is embolded by technology, it's easy to type and send. But the fact that you haven't met yet does suggest insecuring and desperation. There are people on these boards who are in relationships with people that they have still to meet in person. Link to post Share on other sites
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