dt311unity Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Alright, so here is the situation: Fiance left me back in April, came back in July wanting me back, left me again, came back in october and we got back together and tried to work on stuff. Then she ended up leaving me again saying she was going to try dating another guy. This of course, was after I opened up my heart to her again (stupid me). Now, I have a lot of bitterness and anger towards her. She has ripped my heart up many times in the last few months. Also, we are losing our house that I worked so hard for over the whole situation. I also have the luxury of seeing all her updates on social sites of how happy she is and all that with the new guy. I talked to her last Thursday, which was her birthday and the same day I proposed to her a few years back, she had called because she didn't hear from me at all. Yes, I didn't even call or send a text saying happy birthday since a few days before is when she left me again and started seeing another guy. She was upset because she doesn't understand why we can't be friends. I told her how I felt and the feelings I have towards her right now, she still doesn't understand. Why does she think I would want to be friends with her right now? Just because we spent five years of our lives together doesn't mean I can just forget about the crap she put me through and how she basically threw everything I worked so hard for away. It's like another slap in the face to me. Oh, I don't want to be with you, but hey, can I have the luxury of having you around so we can be friends? I don't understand this. Can anyone explain this to me? Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted November 25, 2009 Share Posted November 25, 2009 Simplest explanation is she wishes to assuage her guilt by disconnecting from you a little at a time by being 'friends'. Also, as evidenced, your attention feeds her ego and validates her attractiveness. Based on the cycle, she's probably been 'dating' another guy for awhile, off and on. He (they) was filler material for you, then you for him (or them). Members of genders do this, though men tend to do the FWB/booty call version more often. Best way, IMO, to heal is to delete her from your life. Choices come with responsibilities Link to post Share on other sites
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