taniya Posted November 28, 2009 Share Posted November 28, 2009 hi all, have been married 2years and my husband is a doctor. he remains busy most of the time in his works and gives very less time in home. i tried to adjust in this for 2 years but this days its becoming hard for me. my husband is a good man and he loves me also, i love him too, but the most of the times i feel alone in home. over it, i m slowly getting attracted to his friend, who sometimes drops over to say hello. i have tried to divert and i have talked with my husband also to give me time, but he has too much responsibility on him in his work. i know its very wrong to have sex with other men, specially his friend, but what do i do? i slowly falling in to it... i really don't wanna do anything wrong but this days it gets difficult for me...i have a job of 5hours already, i use to have some hobbies before but this days i also cant concentrate too much, everything feels dull, my husband comes home at around 2am or 3am and leaves again at 7-8am. i try my best to use the time, i get with him, but he has too much tension in his mind from his work. even when he is home, he is alyas in to paperworks or other stuffs. i tried to divert myself also,... but its not so useful. i fantasize having sex with his friend, or i become a lil flirty with him or other men or allow them to get lil naughty in talks with me. i know this is very wrong, i m guilty from inside, but i donno wat to do, i feel upset about it..... can any 1 help me please?? Link to post Share on other sites
kampfy chair Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 That sounds like a very difficult situation. First, I think you definitely need to talk to your husband about it. Does he realize the extent to which you feel you're becoming distant from him and your attraction to your friend? Does he have time to go to marriage counseling with you? If he's too busy to deal with this situation, then I think you need to ask yourself if this is something you can do indefinitely. He may work fewer hours eventually, and he may not. Even if you love each other very much, it may be a situation that simply won't work for you. That said, I wouldn't sleep with this friend of yours until you've figured out whether your marriage can work or not. You'll likely regret it, and your husband would end up feeling very hurt. I would suggest avoiding him until you've had time to try to work on the marriage. If it's not going to work, then tell your husband you want a divorce before you pursue something else. Link to post Share on other sites
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