Author overlyConfused Posted December 26, 2009 Author Share Posted December 26, 2009 A word of advice to anyone else going through what I am going through. If you are alone ... DO NOT drink alcohol. I consider myself to be a physically and mentally tough person, but the only thing that alcohol has done to me tonight was make my cry like a little girl. Drinking was a horrible idea. I am fighting every ounce of my being to stop myself from calling my ex and telling her how much I miss her. Link to post Share on other sites
Navin_R_Johnson Posted December 26, 2009 Share Posted December 26, 2009 ^^ Very true. The bottle got me through a few tough weeks, but I got sick of being sick and depressed and hungover, so I quit. Over two years ago. Link to post Share on other sites
Author overlyConfused Posted December 27, 2009 Author Share Posted December 27, 2009 My ex and I did not communicate at all on Christmas day. Instead, she decides to text me the day after about nothing more than business. It's been a month now, and I am losing hope each day about getting back together. Link to post Share on other sites
hopesndreams Posted December 27, 2009 Share Posted December 27, 2009 My ex and I did not communicate at all on Christmas day. Instead, she decides to text me the day after about nothing more than business. It's been a month now, and I am losing hope each day about getting back together. The sooner you start letting go of that last bit of hope, it will be like the world opening up for you. One foot in front of the other, no looking back, be tough and love and live your life for you. It takes time, it hurts like nothing else, but you will come through this a better man. Link to post Share on other sites
Author overlyConfused Posted January 4, 2010 Author Share Posted January 4, 2010 Time goes on. I've been making good effort to meet new people and have made some new friends along the way. This is certainly helping tremendously. I've felt so good this week that I even started having feelings of actually forgiving my ex. Is this way too soon. Is this just a temporary feeling? Why in the world would I feel this way? Link to post Share on other sites
seibert253 Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 Time goes on. I've been making good effort to meet new people and have made some new friends along the way. This is certainly helping tremendously. I've felt so good this week that I even started having feelings of actually forgiving my ex. Is this way too soon. Is this just a temporary feeling? Why in the world would I feel this way? You are moving on my friend. Over time you will care less what she does, who she's with, all of it. You havn't "moved on", but you are getting there. Link to post Share on other sites
bettermustcome Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 OC, I have read this entire thread and must say that you sound like the male version of me right now!! I share so many of your feelings. I try to be civil and nice because for one, it is in my nature..and two, if I don't..will he want me back? I too feel like I am so strong some days and the very next day, it feels like I took a leap backwards. I understand where you are coming from and hope that it gets better..for both of us:) Sometimes, it helps when I remember that my ex was the one that took our 6 year relationship away..For whatever reasons, reasons that I may really never know, he is chosing to not be with me. This realization does sting a bit but then I remember that I deserve to be loved whole heartedly..the same way that I have given. I shouldn't have to hope that someone will love be enough to fight for us to be together, I shouldn't need to convince or coerce someone to be with me. As much as I miss him and love him..and I really truly do..little by little I am realizing that hey guess what..I DON'T WANT HIM EITHER!! You deserve someone better..know that..any words of wisdom from you would be appreciated as well. Good luck and take care! Link to post Share on other sites
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