A stupid mistake that lost the love of my life.

[XxForgotenSoulxX]

It was about two weeks ago that me and my boyfriends broke up and that was due to me having a little fun and kissing someone else and there parnter yelling at me and i aparently cheated on him three times and that really wasn't true i was mucking around with a friend and people thought that me and my best buy friend were making out and i defened myself i was slowly losing hi trust from the first mistake and ever since what happend two Mondays ago i've lost all of his trust and i really love this guy but with out his trust i can ever fill the hole thats in my heart because of that day and i regret doing it as soon a i did it and i wish i could that it back but cant.

[Bryanp]

Just a quick question but if you loved him so much then why would you be kissing another guy?

[norajane]

If you need to kiss other people in order to have fun, then you aren't dating the love of your life.

 

It's not so fun for your bf when he finds out you've been kissing other people. It's hurtful. You had to have known that, yet you did it anyway. Choosing to do something hurtful is not a loving act.

 

You didn't make mistakes. You made choices. And choices come with consequences.

 

I'm afraid you have to learn these lessons now so you don't do this again to the next love of your life.

[You'reasian]

When you're just dating, people like to keep their other dating activities anonymous. They date around, its common practice. I know for instance, one of my friendss was dating a someone who was still banging their ex after they started dating. Not something you want to tell the person you're dating - and would probably go unnoticed since the person doing it might never get caught....so,

 

Should we discount the first few months of dating?

 

When should we take the other partner seriously if we meet under circumstances of just dating around?

Edited November 28, 2009 by You'reasian

[InThis305]

you should probably tell him just what you said up here and be honest

[Chrome Barracuda]

...Does this woman has any sense of honor or loyalty.

 

Kissing other people for fun can have you ending up with herpes! lol.

[ADF]

One word: punctuation.

 

One mistake is all it takes, unfortunately. There's not much else to say. If your ex-BF decided to dump you over that kiss, he has the right. Move on.

[samsungxoxo]

Does anyone get that she stated about cheating 3 times? One time kiss can maybe be worked out and forgotten but 3 times?

 

To OP: Yes sometimes that's all it takes to lose something or someone, making not right choices. I think he needs space so he can decide what will happen and if he wants to work it out.

In the next future relationship (unless you want to make it an open relationship) don't kiss others.

[aystro]

if you kiss others it means that you are selfish. You do not care about the "love of your life". How you hurt his feelings. You just want to feel wanted by as many men as possible. Usually this happens to women/men who have been spoiled as children and treated like royalties. This makes you lose reality. And you want more, more, MORE. You will never have enough. Sadly only strong people can change their negative personality traits. Usually people don't change... that's the truth.

[Dexter Morgan]

It was about two weeks ago that me and my boyfriends broke up and that was due to me having a little fun and kissing someone else and there parnter yelling at me and i aparently cheated on him three times and that really wasn't true i was mucking around with a friend and people thought that me and my best buy friend were making out and i defened myself i was slowly losing hi trust from the first mistake and ever since what happend two Mondays ago i've lost all of his trust and i really love this guy but with out his trust i can ever fill the hole thats in my heart because of that day and i regret doing it as soon a i did it and i wish i could that it back but cant.

 

ya ya ya, nice try with saying that you were just messing around with a "friend".

 

Own it, you cheated. quit being immature and "mucking around with a friend" otherwise you are going to lose more good men in the future.

[Javelin]

It was about two weeks ago that me and my boyfriends broke up and that was due to me having a little fun and kissing someone else and there parnter yelling at me and i aparently cheated on him three times and that really wasn't true i was mucking around with a friend and people thought that me and my best buy friend were making out and i defened myself i was slowly losing hi trust from the first mistake and ever since what happend two Mondays ago i've lost all of his trust and i really love this guy but with out his trust i can ever fill the hole thats in my heart because of that day and i regret doing it as soon a i did it and i wish i could that it back but cant.

 

The only thing you can do now is realize the mistakes that you've made, admit to them, and better yourself in future relationships.

[New_Life08]

Unfortunately we often have to lose the one we love before we realize just how much we loved them. I would guess there were boundary issues prior to this?

 

Love is not perfect, we do not live in a perfect world, and with all of the best intentions; the truest love struggles to stay alive. Intentionally crossing the line this way undermines what love is. He left you because he knows that if you loved him truly, there wouldn't be a desire to play around this way with another guy.

 

I am not sure if you will win him back, it will take a lot of honesty with yourself and with him as to what your priorities are in love.

[Spectre]

I will say it again: Leaving your dinner in the oven too long and burning it is a mistake. You do not mistakenly kiss another guy.

 

Not to mention why are you going to parties with your "best guy friend" without your boyfriend? Plus you making out with another dude for fun is just skanky, and your bf(or ex I should say) is probably like 99% of guys in terms of not liking skanky women.

 

Anyways, if you were truly in love you wouldn't of thought kissing anyone else would be fun. So..you don't truly love the guy..so just leave him alone.

 

If for some stupid reason he decides to forgive you..you sure as hell better be ready to get this "best guy friend" out of your life for good.

[harmfulsweetz]

It's his choice to leave you as it was your choice to cheat. I used to label it a mistake, but it's not. It's a poor choice. You chose to kiss him, and so he has the right to choose to dump you. Can you work it out? Sure, but it'll take time, effort, alot of trust issues, probably paranoia (nearly definitely) is it worth it? Is it not better to move on, learn from your mistakes, and start anew?

[kairi and sora]

Wow, when i read this id swear u were my ex.

Anyways, you chose to cheat on him, you chose to throw all of his trust out of the window, so as everyone before me said, its his right to move on. its up to YOU to regain his trust back. If you say you love him adn regret what you did, PROVE IT. Ask to meet to talk, explain why you did what you did, if you really mean youll never do it again, then tell him that. let him know he can trust you and that you've learned from your past mistakes.

[Pink Cupcakes]

You need to worry more about your writing skills rather than your love life right now. You will never have a good job or career writing as you do now. It's pretty much unreadible.