XKatieX Posted November 29, 2009 Share Posted November 29, 2009 So I recently went through a breakup, its been 4 or 5 weeks now. He's already moved on, got a new job and everything, he's a very independent person, and an outgoing person. The problem is I am not very outgoing, and I depend on others for my happiness usually. But there are more problems that I have with my life and myself. He was basically all I had, I have pretty much no friends, I have a couple people I could call but I just don't feel like they are the type of people I want to hang out with. I used to go to a public school all the way up to the beginning of 10th grade. But I switched to online schooling for anxiety reasons, anxiety is another thing that I struggle with. Large crowds, and people I don't feel comfortable around is usually what brings on the anxiety. I do not have many hobbies either, the most I do is play a online computer game (World of Warcraft) where I do have fun with some people on there, but they live no where close to me. So you see I'm taking this break up very tough, because not only am I completely alone now I lost someone who was not just my boyfriend but my very best friend, and family member. I've tried therapy, I've seen many therapists but it just doesn't seem to help me at all. I feel like I could probably get my life back together if I had him, but since I don't I find it hard to even WANT to get myself together. Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 1, 2009 Share Posted December 1, 2009 Until you get the toxic feelings out of you , then don't try to get out there and date anyone yet. This is PRIME example of someone who makes someone else their entire world and when that person is gone , they are left hopeless and lost. Your first priority is to go in the bathroom and take a good look at yourself in the mirror . Get a good shower going and then step back in front of the mirror. Anything you want to work on to improve yourself , write it down. Get your hair cut and colored. ( color it yourself if you cant afford a HD ) You have a computer. Look online at volunteer organizations. Look at groups , like hiking groups , any groups you are interested in and get yourself enrolled in them. Realize he might of left because of YOU. If this is true. You want to make yourself better and stronger so when a new R comes along later , you will be ready for it. It takes YEARS to get strong. To not depend on everyone to make you happy. Guess who's job it is to make you happy ?? YOU ! Not this guy or that guy... Because guys go away. Get a small pet for a companion... Link to post Share on other sites
Boundary Problem Posted December 2, 2009 Share Posted December 2, 2009 If you only had 6 months left to live, what are all the things you would want to get done? You know that Tim McGraw song "Live Like You Were Dying". I love that song. It motivates me to get all my hobbies done and go to events, where you meet more people...and it all snowballs. Just hard getting the snowball going. Link to post Share on other sites
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