Can you love a bi-sexual man if he was willing to be loving and faithful ?

[azcuriousm4u]

As for bi-men , can being soley with a female be enough ?

 

That's a good question... for me, I'd have to say "yes." It takes love to make a monogamy as well as commitment. Besides, she could play on his bi desires in numerous ways including strap-ons and other things. The other option is to occasionally have a threesome with a pre-screened/pre-selected third - with ground rules completely set. I'd make it work with a sexually active wife.

 

Jamie in AZ

[ToMuch]

If a bi-sexual man does you the HONOR of being interested in you, feel flattered. These are often men of great power, dignity, beauty and talent. MEN who can have ANYONE they so desire. Feel flattered.

 

DO we really have to make a list of famous successful and powerful people that are strictly straight to show that straight people can also have beauty and talent?

 

I'm a gay man and recently came out of a relationship with a Bi man - and have to say that it was the hardest relationship that I have every been in. His repeated lies, and attempts to manipulate were difficult enough, but having him lying in my bed whilst talking to his friends on the phone and telling them that he was on a train was just humiliating. For the first two months I knew him he even went by a completely made up name!

 

Still I stuck it out dispite that he slept around behind my back on a number of occassions and would phone me up at gone midnight every evening drunk and screaming abuse down the phone - but eventually it gets to the point where it doesn't matter if he is bisexual or not, its just that he is an arsehole!

 

The point I'm making is don't generalise on the terms of whether they are bisexual or not, ask what kind of person he is and does he want the same things as you. If you both want a trusting caring and one on one relationship thats great. If he wants an open relationship ask yourself if you can really handle that. Just at the end of the day remember that you have to look after yourself as well. Please remember that all good relationships - friendships and otherwise - need a 50/50 balance. The Good relationships are the ones that are honest, respectful and dignified.

 

Would I consider a relationship with a bi men again? Yes, but I would like to spend a lot of time getting to know him first - just the same as if I was dating a gay man.

[AmberAriesMom]

Here's a thought....when we -in a serious relationship- accept something in another person, such as in this case a bi-sexual man's sexual lack of preference, there's a chance after you accept it you will try being bi your own self. If not, then you haven't really accepted it, only put up with it to keep from losing your bi man.

[FireReady]

Hi, I'm new and nice to meet you all. For me, the sexual preference isn't a problem. It's the commitment aspect. But then again, I heard of this statistic that 60% of marriages have infidelity. So what difference does it make if it comes from a straigth/bi member? The point is, sexuall preference should not matter. It's the level of commitment and monogamy that should be factored into the relationship.

[Tangerina]

Geez, it doesn't matter what orientation people are, some cheat and some don't.... if I was with someone I wouldn't care who they had been with in the past if they wanted to be with me and be faithful.... if they cheated on me I woudn't care if it was with a woman or a man, it would still be a deal breaker...

 

I don't really understand this post... people in relationships are always attracted to people but being attracted to both sexes doesn't make someone more likely to act on it in my opinion....

[centered]

I don't really understand this post... people in relationships are always attracted to people but being attracted to both sexes doesn't make someone more likely to act on it in my opinion....

It seems logical that bi people tend to have twice the temptation. Over the years I've met about 20 bi people. Younger bi people seem to be a bit uncertain about their orientation, and older ones seem to reach a point where they decide which gender they prefer. Can they be faithful? I don't think you can answer that for a whole class of people -- everyone is unique, and each person will have their own unique internal moral compass guiding them. The only data point that is meaningful to me is that I was married for 10 years to someone who is bi and still in the closet, and I was cheated on and lied to more than once. And to this day, I have noticed I am more than a little sensitive with any potential new partners who joke about being queer. Not interested. I want a man who knows exactly what he wants, and it's not another man!