a few questions in my story: does he want me back?

[italianscorpio89]

my ex broke up with me 7 months ago, we have been in a long distance relationship for 2 years and lived with each other for 6 months. he lives 7 hours away. he broke up with me because i was anti-social, got depressed over stupid crap, got angry for dumb things, was irrational a lot and very clingy. after he broke up with me i told him i would change, at the time it was for him and i told him it was for my beneft, of course he knew i wasn't telling the truth. i stopped talking to him for about 6 months on and off at random we would talk over IM and i would beg. its been a week since we started talking again. we talk almost every day, and i am friendly.

 

over the course of 6 months i have changed a lot. im not clingy, i have never been so social with my friends, i rarely to never complain about stuff, and im not irrational as much as i was before. (when your angry, who isn't irrational for a few minutes???), i have a grip on my anger. i told him i wish we could see each other, but he said he doesn't want to get mixed feelings for him or me. (question 1:whats that so post to mean???). he also said he doesn't want his family to get suspicious and he works full time and works full time. (i can understand that part). since we have been talking he has been making an effort to talk to me, like he would ask questions about me and not just answer in one word replies. (question 2: why would he be doing that??) he never did that before. we talk romantically too a.k.a phone sex and he doesn't object, of course i asked him if we could and he was like "are you sure you want to do this?" and i said yes. another thing i find weird is he has the manners to tell me when he is going in and when he just got out of class. he never did that before either. the reason why i am starting to talk to him again is: i was told guys who break up with their girlfriends, can get feelings back again for their ex. once they see a big change. i have a feeling he is over me, but his actions make me think something different. another question is how can i convince him to see me on college winter break? i figure if we see each other maybe he can see my progress and change his mind or start having sparks again. i want your honest opinion (of course i wouldn't put up an act, im going be truthful to him and me on how i would handle situations). (question 3:what can i do get him to want me back?) im not being clingy as friends, im not complaining at all, and im not depressed, and im more social, please help. i love him so much. who knows what will happen. but you never know what will happen unless you give it a try, right? how he was my first real LDR, the one that took my virginity, the longest relationship i have had. i only had 3 out of my 20 years of living. showing him i have changed over IM, webcam, text, and phone isnt going to show much.

[kimmi]

I think he is scared that you lied to him before so now he is not scared just cautious around you. 1 week is not enough time to see that you have changed. Do you wait for him to come online to chat with him? I know I use to do that.