KSSDallas Posted December 1, 2009 Share Posted December 1, 2009 Well...I posted on here a month ago or so because I didn't know what the fate of my relationship would be. It turns out its over...he just kind of disappeared and everything was handled via text. So insulting. We'd been together 9 months, and he told me every day he loved me. I still love him. The last day I saw him was the day everything hit the fan...but earlier that day even we were making plans for two trips and we were looking into a trip to Vegas...all his suggestions. It seems to me up until the very end he was looking forward with me. I don't understand the switch. I'm having a really hard time lately because I feel sooo abandoned. But, I am reading a book that is helping me work through these feelings and I have to recommend it. It's called 'The Journey from Abandonment to Healing' by Susan Anderson. I'm going through grief...but I don't feel like a crazy person anymore. This book is the only way I've gotten that far. I miss him more every day instead of less and can't understand how he just walked away from us. It hurts. I'm doing the no contact thing, but I don't know if he ever wants to hear from me again, and that prospect is painful. Have any of you ever been dumped under vague circumstances but had the dumper come back to you...even if just to be friends? He even deleted me from myspace and facebook. He said HE needed time to heal and start to feel better...I don't understand...HE left ME. I wanted to work, I wanted to fight for our relationship. He gave up...why is he sad? If he's so done with me why is he sad and not relieved. If he's so over me why did he feel the need to delete me from his life. I being on the receiving end of this feel like it should have been ME to delete HIM. Its insult on top of injury. Not only does he abandon me...he erases me. I sooo don't get it. And no...there was no cheating or lying or anything awful like that. Infact...I wonder what kind of response he'd have if those things were the case. Wow. Anyway, if any of you have any insight or advice. I'd love to hear it. Thanks! Link to post Share on other sites
Recommended Posts