husband lied emotioanl affair maybe more do i take him back...

[guest]

I need help. ok i've been with my husband 8 years since we were 15 our relationship started out with lies to begin with on his part he has lied to me so many times he also has left me like 11 times in the past 8 years. each time i've gone back to him i've never broken up eiht him or anything but he countuniously leaceves me and lies to me iv'e never trusted him. we've been married for 1 year and have two children together well right after our one year anniversary i found out there was some girl he was stalking too that he worked w/ i heard their answering machine message with i love u's an d all he said just a friend but then proceded to tell me he didnt know if he wanted to be married (i was prgnet at the time) well we brok up since then we then in august tried to make it work i told him if he was still speaking with that girl then it was over at the end of september i got the phone bills and he had called her like 5X a day still... so i kicked him out we've been seperated since then. well i havea friend who i've known for along time were not in a realationship but down the road there is potentiala nd he is everything thats right trustworthey etc. but me and my husband were defiantly getting a divorce until my husband found out about my freind now he wants me back.. he says he only talks to this girl like 2x a week b/c she is sepearated also and her mom told her it was inapproparite and not to talk to him as much . so its not like he quit talking to her b/c he wanted to or anything and i think he wants me back mostly b/c he found out about my friend and me getting close. i am soo lost i dont know if i can take him back b/c in our history he has left me so many times righnt now are kids are so yung if i take him back and he leaves me 3 years down the road they'll be older and hurt more. aslo i dotn know if i can go throw it again a 12th time. he swars hes changed and cried tonight how much he misses me and its so hard b/c we do have so much But i just dont think i'd be smart to go back. any suggestions anything? thanks .. confused

[easy&simple]

clear case to me. leave.

[FreeMe]

He's not going to change. If you take him back then 5 years from now, 10 years, 15 years...you'll be writing in with the same problem.

[moimeme]

he swars hes changed and cried tonight how much he misses me

 

Forget what he says. His words mean nothing. Actions are what count and his actions towards you have been horrible, dreadful, awful, and rotten. Take him back and you'll be in for more of the same. He has lied to you all along - why would you think he's being truthful now?

[FreeMe]

That crying always gets us, doesn't it? I've fallen for that too and even if he's sincere at the moment he's crying his eyes out, I can't see how someone whose behavior has been what it has with you is going to make an overnight change like that. If you take him back, I think it just tells him he got away with lying and cheating again.