kesa Posted December 16, 2003 Share Posted December 16, 2003 Hi everyone, I have been dating a guy for 5 months, and everything is going great, except once in a while he brings up his past relationships ALL in which they watched a lot of porn together. He still has tapes of all all the videos they enjoyed together - there are a *lot* of them. I am not into porn at all - I think it desensitizes, and takes away from the specialness and intimacy of the relationship. I think something is wrong with the relationship if two people need to see two strangers to get turned on. He says he doesn't need porn, that all he needs is me. I want to believe him, but the fact that it was such a big and consistent part of his past makes it hard to believe. I could understand if one relationship was like that, but both of his previous long term relationships? That makes me think it was his idea to bring it into the relationship, not the woman's. How do I know for sure we are compatible in the sex department? I'm not concerned about the short term, but the long term. How do I know that a porn-free relationship will make him happy in the long run? I know that sex is an important part of a relationship, so I just want to make sure I am right for him and he is right for me. All comments and suggestions are welcome. kesa Link to post Share on other sites
lala Posted December 16, 2003 Share Posted December 16, 2003 Personally, I don't like men who like porn just like I don't like women who love gossips. Link to post Share on other sites
dyermaker Posted December 16, 2003 Share Posted December 16, 2003 lala, thanks for your opinion Now, as to the question Your boyfriend likes porn. You don't. Your boyfriend likes you. Your boyfriend attempted to bring this into the relationship. Be happy that not only is he comfortable expressing his desires to you, but also that he is fine with you not being fine with it. Let him watch porn though, just tell him that you're not interested. Link to post Share on other sites
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