dazzle22 Posted December 23, 2009 Share Posted December 23, 2009 Lonely Guy and Chris, you both sound very articulate and self aware and those are attractive traits. I think Robaday was spot on. His story is fascinating how he gradually worked his way out of the social anxiety. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LonelyGuy85 Posted December 24, 2009 Author Share Posted December 24, 2009 Chris , That's a great site. Thanks for that. I know that i have some hangups when it comes to interacting with other people. I know i need to break out of my comfort zone and try things i would otherwise find too out there to try. My problem is that instead of seeing an issue like lack of self confidence and working on it, instead i think what else can i do, i know, bungie jumping, swimming. Even though i seem to be moving forward, i am moving towards the wrong junction. Link to post Share on other sites
Blindsidedagainalive Posted January 3, 2010 Share Posted January 3, 2010 How are you? Have you asked her out? Link to post Share on other sites
kahn2154 Posted January 4, 2010 Share Posted January 4, 2010 I'm in same situation as you, 23, never had a gf, little worse though as I have no friends or prospects. I started going to therapy over a year ago, and thought I had improved my confidence, and went to the mall today and actually had three social interactions and just screwed them all up and just looked like a bumbling idiot so that took a hit. It's really hard and I understand where you are coming from, like you have a chip on your shoulder, can't interact with a girl because of lack of experience but can't get experience unless you start interacting with girls. Link to post Share on other sites
DiscoChick Posted January 14, 2010 Share Posted January 14, 2010 How about a person who pays bills, is successful, has a great heart, can do the laundry and make instant noodles! I think those are so much more important than worrying about "oh god i'm still a virgin!" I agree! Try being told you probably can't have kids and telling your best friend. She is 22 with two kids. She had three abortions last year, and she told me about each one. She cried the first time, but now it seems like she's just going in for a regular check-up. Then a girl waiting in the doctor's office told me she has breast cancer...and she is just fifteen! Believe me, there is always something worse. Link to post Share on other sites
Author LonelyGuy85 Posted January 16, 2010 Author Share Posted January 16, 2010 Here's an update for anyone still interested in this topic. I haven't asked her out, sadly, but i came extremely close at one point and chickened out at the last minute. I also have found it extremely difficult arranging to do things with this girl, but whenever i try and arrange something, something always gets in the way. I am also unsure of whether or not she has been sending me signals, but again it comes back to my lack of self esteem in order to test it to see if there have been any signals. I have had a change in my personal cirumstances recently as well which would mean that even if there was anything between us, it's unlikely to happen as i will be moving in a few months. I am still interested to see if there is/was anything between us, and i might test the waters closer to my moving date just so i can say to myself, yes there was or no there wasn't, and i need to be more careful reading signals. Link to post Share on other sites
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