fixing the problem before it starts

[mustangman]

Ok this is my first doing a post wish me luck.

 

I guess I'll give you some back ground first .I'm 22 and I've been through 5 very bad relationships the last one was really bad with a side of miserable. It lasted about 1yr 1/2 we just did not get along and after I broke up with her. I moved back with my parents gave up the house and car and thought I would start fresh. That was April of this year, got into mortgages and in August I went to a trade show in Hollywood, Florida. I had no intensions at all of meeting somebody.

 

It was my second afternoon there I'm down by the pool I had my drink (feeling really good). I look over and swear as God as my witness the most Amazing thing happened a girl right across from me smiled looking right at me she's had my heart ever since I made it a point to be in her path as many times as it took to talk to her, thank God it only took two times. I've never had trouble talking to women but she had me saying some stupid stuff(and still does) in the end we went out that night.

 

Well we spent the next two days together and they were perfect I cherished every moment with her. I didn't ask her where she lived until the end of the trade show. It was too perfect to ask that and find out that she lived 7 states away. It turned out that she lives about 150 miles away from me, which I have never been in a long distance relationship before but I knew if I was ever going to be happy this would have to work. and so just about every weekend I go see her or she comes to see me I've taken a week off from work and spent the whole time with her. we talk on the phone hour/ hour 1/2 a day .

 

Ok here's the problem I love her to death well that's not the problem. I guess I'm starting to get comfortable in the relationship and I'm slipping a little bit with the romantic stuff the flowers, cards, ect. I just want to know what I can do now to keep her happy and keep our love strong between us , because for the first in my life I know I've got a girlfriend that loves me just as much as I love her.I just don't want to be writing a post asking how to get my girlfriend back. Any advise on keeping the love strong and what are some normal things that happen in a relationship that start the down hill problems so hopefully I can stop them before they happen..

 

 

P.S. Does love have any thing to do with that nervous knot in the bottom of your stomach when your around the person you care about.

 

thanks

[sarah12]

wow, after reading so many depressing posts about how we are all down with our breakups, it's nice to hear about a good one that is working! I believe this is supposed to be in the dating section..but..it will probably be moved later.

 

Anyways, sounds like you are doing a good job so far.

Any advise on keeping the love strong and what are some normal things that happen in a relationship that start the down hill problems so hopefully I can stop them before they happen..

I think this is a great question..I don't have all the answers, but I personally think that sometimes in a long relationship, you may take the other person for granted and that is not a good thing. In my relationship, I was taken for granted, I also didn't like that the guy got too comfortable with me too soon. He acted as if we were already married, and that always made me uncomfortable. By this, I mean that he would come over to my place, and treat it as if it was his. Now, I didn't want him to feel uncomfortable at my house, but I guess I didn't appreciate that he felt like he could do anything he wanted in my house.

 

Another important thing is to remember to always respect the other person. It might sound like something trivial, and that it is to be expected in a relationship, but I think that sometimes people forget. For example, if she makes a decision that you don't like, you have to talk to her about it, but in the end, you must respect it.

 

That is all I can think of for now! Good luck !

[caretoomuch]

Just never take her for granted and every day give her reasons to keep her love for you. remember the small things score as many points as the large. To make her feel loved and supported is greater than flowers and things money can buy.

 

and communicate ... if you have problems / issues (which you will) do not let them go unresolved. Listen to her hints ... carry a notebook and write down her likes and dislikes and read it at least weekly to remind yourself.

 

good luck ... remember spring time must end so it is the other three seasons you must prepare for.

[mr_roggger]

Lots of new and exciting activities. Don't get into a routine every weekend like I did with my semi-long-distance relationship last year. We managed through that year, but this year it has not worked. I took her too much for granted, and she quite rightly left me. Now I am in the arse-ache of a situation trying to get her back because now, and only now that she has left me do I realise just how much I love her. This year she was given lots of new and exciting things to do, embarked on them and left me as I was still being my boing, complacent self! How I kick myself for this!