Lost-n-confused Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Ill edit it again. I really don't know what to change. Ive changed it about 5 times. I keep cutting it down. What the heck do you have to say to get someone to want to go out with you? There are a lot of I's but isn't that what a profile is about? ME Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 just curious.how are you and your husband.In what way? wow 25 all the way to 39, are still looking to get laid lolI don't see this as being a big deal. Men are men. Within the confines of this thread topic, when a woman posts lingerie or bikini pics, she'll draw not only men who are looking for quickies but also men who might become relationship material. She'll just have more crap to filter through. It's even worse or better for men with shirtless pics, reliant on what you're trying to portray. Many women will ignore your profile, if they're looking for a relationship. What you're left with are women looking for sex or ones who are focused on the superficial, although there will be a small portion of women looking for a relationship too. So, for someone like Lost, who's looking to hit it and quit it, as well as leave the door open for more, his bare-chested pic is ideal for his purposes. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 I use the same text on every site. Title "If your worth it, Ill make you know it. There is just something about this that puts me off. Essay: I'm a very outgoing person. I'm always up to try something new and I’m constantly looking for excitement and challenges. Although I do enjoy a relaxing evening at home. I’m not much into the scene or clubs while I do enjoy going and enjoy dancing I mainly like outdoor activities. I’m a very caring and compassionate person and when I like someone I like to show it and be straight forward. I’m looking to meet someone for dating and a romantic relationship. I enjoy jetsking. I also love Martial arts. I enjoy dancing and love anything from ballroom dancing to salsa. I enjoy going to museums and viewing art and enjoy performing arts as well. I like cooking as its a part of a healthy diet and a lot of fun too. My goal in life is to be a pilot. I hold a commercial license and I'm currently working on my flight instructor certification so I can start my aviation career. I received an AS degree in professional aviation and a BS degree in environmental science. My dream is to be a pilot for the excitement, travel and prestige. I enjoy listening to the radio and love the randomness of it. Music I enjoy are alternative, classic rock, r& b, techno and jazz. So, if you are looking for someone who values a healthy body and mind, someone who loves to go out and have an adventurous time, travel, or just kick back and relax and talk, I’m that guy. Photos change often. It talks about what you enjoy. That's it. You repeat yourself in a way quite a bit. It doesn't say what you are looking for... other then dating/relationship. What about what you look for in a woman? What do you want in a relationship? It just goes on and on, and I got bored reading it. Link to post Share on other sites
thegreatmoose Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 No offense but most men from 25 - 39, still lean towards getting laid by a hottie, as a possibility. It doesn't mean they want a relationship with this person, just as satisfied to have that ONS or FWB with her. I really think this gets exaggerated by some women to the point where they assume that almost all males in the 25-39 age range are after sex above relationships. Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Ill edit it again. I really don't know what to change. Ive changed it about 5 times. I keep cutting it down. What the heck do you have to say to get someone to want to go out with you? There are a lot of I's but isn't that what a profile is about? ME Stop thinking of it like you are listing your attributes.. Women respond to feelings and emotions.. not facts (no offense ladies) Your profile has to be more feeling and emotional rather then simply listing everything you like. Tell them the type of woman you are looking for.. the type of guy you are.. how you would like to make them feel and how exciting the things the 2 of you together could be. Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 I really think this gets exaggerated by some women to the point where they assume that almost all males in the 25-39 age range are after sex above relationships. Agreed... Not that I'll include myself in the relationship category.. least not at the moment.. too many lovely ladies to entertain first Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 What the heck do you have to say to get someone to want to go out with you? When you've met with that success you can come back here and tell me. I haven't a clue. There has never been any consistency. It just happened. TBH, when commenting in this thread on your pix, I totally had forgotten you are our flying virgin. Man, you're gonna have some fun. Just relax. It's the holidays. Enjoy your family and friends and work on your casual talk skills. It'll come. Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Ill edit it again. I really don't know what to change. Ive changed it about 5 times. I keep cutting it down. What the heck do you have to say to get someone to want to go out with you? There are a lot of I's but isn't that what a profile is about? ME But when you are trying to date, you should want to know more about a person. You should know what you are looking for, at least to a point. You should know what you want in a person. When you send out your dull generic message, you ask them 1 question and that is it. That doesn't show much interest. Maybe you should use something different on the different sites. See what type of different responses you get. Be more specific, but don't drag it on. Link to post Share on other sites
dudet Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 In what way? I don't see this as being a big deal. Men are men. Within the confines of this thread topic, when a woman posts lingerie or bikini pics, she'll draw not only men who are looking for quickies but also men who might become relationship material. She'll just have more crap to filter through. It's even worse or better for men with shirtless pics, reliant on what you're trying to portray. Many women will ignore your profile, if they're looking for a relationship. What you're left with are women looking for sex or ones who are focused on the superficial, although there will be a small portion of women looking for a relationship too. So, for someone like Lost, who's looking to hit it and quit it, as well as leave the door open for more, his bare-chested pic is ideal for his purposes. lol sorry i meant how OLD are you and husband Link to post Share on other sites
dudet Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 There is just something about this that puts me off. It talks about what you enjoy. That's it. You repeat yourself in a way quite a bit. It doesn't say what you are looking for... other then dating/relationship. What about what you look for in a woman? What do you want in a relationship? It just goes on and on, and I got bored reading it. i think it seems all about him, and probably does intimidate the heck out of women. he probably comes across as i said, full of himself Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 I really think this gets exaggerated by some women to the point where they assume that almost all males in the 25-39 age range are after sex above relationships. Okay, now you're taking excerpts of my posts and taking them completely out of context. It's like me taking this out of your post and debating it as follow: all males in the 25-39 age range are after sex above relationships Don't you think you're greatly exaggerating? Link to post Share on other sites
dreamergrl Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 i think it seems all about him, and probably does intimidate the heck out of women. he probably comes across as i said, full of himself I think the head line alone makes women pass. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 lol sorry i meant how OLD are you and husbandI'm 34 and he's 37, but I'm not certain why that matters, so I'll let you expand on it. Link to post Share on other sites
D-Jam Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 I'm not a woman, but I wonder if the shirtless pic works better on the more "shallow/gold digger" dating sites like hotenough or cashcats? "The built wealthy trust fund baby showing off his alpha male-ness to the potential trophy girl." Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Ill edit it again. I really don't know what to change. Ive changed it about 5 times. I keep cutting it down. What the heck do you have to say to get someone to want to go out with you? There are a lot of I's but isn't that what a profile is about? ME I'm sorry but you open your profile to floor for scrutiny you will be here all night trying to appease everyone here. Just keep if short and true to who you are. Best I can offer is be funny, I think we would agree women love funny. Drop all the sappy, I am good at this and that crap. Everyone says that. I had a guy contact me who had an opening line that said "my hips don't lie" Then he had a picture of himself with one of those advertising backdrops (think it was for Greygoose) like they do when they photograph stars on the red carpet at movie premier and it was just a pic of him and the sign behing him and he wrote under the picture "I'm the one on the right" Then he wrote out in point form the type of woman he was looking for something to the effect of looking for a woman with a great personality and who is fun one who laughs at all my jokes a woman who looks good dressed sporty, and to go out it is very important that none of these women know each other Then he went into some serious stuff. Overall I thought it was hilarious. total goofball but he gave enough details of himself to show that he had it together but was a lot of fun. what can I say, we like fun! Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 I'm not a woman, but I wonder if the shirtless pic works better on the more "shallow/gold digger" dating sites like hotenough or cashcats? "The built wealthy trust fund baby showing off his alpha male-ness to the potential trophy girl."What does shirtlessness have to do with material wealth? Link to post Share on other sites
thegreatmoose Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Okay, now you're taking excerpts of my posts and taking them completely out of context. It's like me taking this out of your post and debating it as follow: I took nothing out of context. Most = almost all. Whatever, we are getting nowhere with this. Link to post Share on other sites
Dark_of_the_Moon Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Your write up, while not bad, was hard to read in the present fragmented sentence format. Also, you have listed a great deal about what you do, but told me nothing about who you are. You have not intrigued me and left me wanting to dig deeper to see what else is there and the long list of things you like also left me with nothing more to ask. Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Your write up, while not bad, was hard to read in the present fragmented sentence format. Also, you have listed a great deal about what you do, but told me nothing about who you are. You have not intrigued me and left me wanting to dig deeper to see what else is there and the long list of things you like also left me with nothing more to ask. See lost.. you want to stimulate her interest and hook her attraction. Right now all you are doing is lobbing info at them in the hopes that something sticks. It wont.. you are saying nothing thats any different from the other thousands of guys on the site. I recommend you do this.. make a fake female profile and look at the traffic it gets, then go through the mails and tell us if you feel you are still unique with the messages you send... then go look at some of the guys profiles and see what/how they write their profiles and adapt from there. Link to post Share on other sites
Lost-n-confused Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Ok Im starting over how does this sound? (Work in progress) Hi im (name) . I am a very outgoing individual who is also very relaxed. I enjoy anything from going out on the town to an exhilarating adventure outside. Yet at the same rate I enjoy having a romantic and quite evening at home. My aspiration in life is to become a professional pilot and I'm currently working on my flight instructor rating. I'm looking for a partner in crime. Someone who I can share my adventures with and have a great time doing so. Id love to have a partner who enjoys going to the gym with me and working out as a couple. Id like to meet someone who isn't afraid to try new adventurous activities, physical or not. She should not be timid nor afraid to speak up. So if you a girl who isn't afraid of a fast paced adventurous lifestyle and isn't afraid to express their emotions without fear of being looked at as desperate the I'm your man. (I think this is very intimidating, but its what your suggesting right?) Link to post Share on other sites
Yukikazi Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Ok Im starting over how does this sound? (Work in progress) its actually starting to sound like you need to make a thread for this.. i think we have hijacked this one enough. Link to post Share on other sites
johan Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Hey, Lost. I read your revised message. And I just have to say: Are you busy tonight? Link to post Share on other sites
Lost-n-confused Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Hey, Lost. I read your revised message. And I just have to say: Are you busy tonight? LOL... I forgot to add something about wanting someone who fined my personality fun. Link to post Share on other sites
TheLoneSock Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 Ok Im starting over how does this sound? (Work in progress) Hi im (name) . I am a very outgoing individual who is also very relaxed. I enjoy anything from going out on the town to an exhilarating adventure outside. Yet at the same rate I enjoy having a romantic and quite evening at home. My aspiration in life is to become a professional pilot and I'm currently working on my flight instructor rating. I'm looking for a partner in crime. Someone who I can share my adventures with and have a great time doing so. Id love to have a partner who enjoys going to the gym with me and working out as a couple. Id like to meet someone who isn't afraid to try new adventurous activities, physical or not. She should not be timid nor afraid to speak up. So if you a girl who isn't afraid of a fast paced adventurous lifestyle and isn't afraid to express their emotions without fear of being looked at as desperate the I'm your man. (I think this is very intimidating, but its what your suggesting right?) Dude, you sound like a b*tch. Just kidding, I'm sure the girls will like this one a lot more, just check your spelling a little and you should be good. It explains what you're about instead of what you like. Link to post Share on other sites
InspiredbyYou Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 I took nothing out of context. Most = almost all. Whatever, we are getting nowhere with this. I agree with that most men in that age group are not looking for that if that were true then explain why on the site I was on an overwhelming amount of men had in their profile Must not be looking for intimate encounters Must hot have contacted other members for intimate encounters Must not be looking to hang out There are a TON of men looking for the full thing not just a hot piece to screw. Shirtless pic as a profile pic sends a pretty clear message "let's go to bed" Link to post Share on other sites
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