How to get over thoughts of ex girlfriend having sex with others?

[Niru]

I believe this is my main obstacle in getting over my ex girlfriend.

 

I can't get over these thoughts of her sleeping with someone else - anyone in particular, but mainly my ex best friend and other friends. She cheated on me with my best friend.

 

Anyways, yes, I don't want to bore you with my story..

 

The thing that hurts most is thoughts of her sleeping with someone else.

 

I honestly feel and think that, other than this, there is nothing else that is keeping me from getting over her and moving on.

 

How do I overcome this? Any advice at all would be greatly appreciated.

[Yukikazi]

Go out and get laid yourself and forget your former SO.

 

Or go bury yourself in a tub of haggen daaz

[New_Life08]

As Dolly Pardon once said..."The best way to get over someone is to get under another one." LOL.

 

The truth is sexual intimacy (for most) is the hardest to let go of. The very thought of my own ex husband sleeping with my once best friend is unthinkable. I can't imagine the double betrayal you feel.

 

What I do know is those thoughts are a waste of daylight. Karma will get both of them sooner or later. The (ex) best friend has no moral standards to carry on with your girlfriend. Your ex-girlfriend is disloyal...period! Cheating in the first place is bad enough... to be with anyone you consider a friend is just plain low-life.

 

I know it pains you to think about it, and there is something to be said about getting out and doing your own thing. It isn't a cure of course, but it may divert those negative thoughts. Unfortunately time is all that will get you peace of mind.

 

Hang in there friend.

[Spectre]

Just tell yourself she's a ho, hoes bang other dudes, hoes cheat. You'll realize you're better off without.

[betrayed2]

You have to let go and realize that you are worth more than a cheating woman. Go out and find someone new.

[samspade]

Agree: Get laid.

 

Also agree: Tell yourself she's a ho, and he's a dirtbag. It's the truth.

[Javelin]

I believe this is my main obstacle in getting over my ex girlfriend.

 

I can't get over these thoughts of her sleeping with someone else - anyone in particular, but mainly my ex best friend and other friends. She cheated on me with my best friend.

 

Anyways, yes, I don't want to bore you with my story..

 

The thing that hurts most is thoughts of her sleeping with someone else.

 

I honestly feel and think that, other than this, there is nothing else that is keeping me from getting over her and moving on.

 

How do I overcome this? Any advice at all would be greatly appreciated.

 

If you have any self respect for yourself and future partners, then meaningless sex is unfortunately not the answer. You'll most likely feel worse after the encounter, since you still care and think about your unfaithful ex-girlfriend. Trust me when I say this, as I've been in a similar situation. The only way to get over the fact is time, patience, and self mending. When you finally realize that you were better off with out her, that's when you'll know that you're free of her chains.

[bluestraps]

Im going through the exact same thing ... week #13 . The first week I was in shock . My ex gilfriend had cheated on me before. I had been through all the feelings before and knew it would get better in time . And it will for you too.I'ts like going to get your wisdom teeth pulled out and then having to go 2 years later to get a single tooth pulled. It wont hurt as much and you know what to expect. But I would'nt wish it on you again If you think its only the physical activities you are worried about, I would start to rationalize that they may not be having sex all the time. I know it sounds stupid but changing your thoughts will help. But depending on how long i'ts been, I have a feeling you will start to think of other things like what are they doing such as , everyday activities. I usualy think about the time they are spending together. She is living with the friend now so they are spending alot of time together. Especialy since its the hollidays it is a time where a lot of good feelings are at work.If you dont want her back thats a good sign. If you dont miss her its a good sign. This is also crazy but sometimes I just let myself picture them in the act. I dont fight the feelings . Also im assuming you have been intimate with her. Realize that you had your time with her. This may seem cold and kind of unfeeling But I think it will help.There is no way to stop your feelings toward your friend. A friend is suposed to have your back. Is that a concern to you .Defineatly dont look for physical relationships start doing things that take up concentration Keep busy