Is he just being nice?

[Grace]

My boyfriend of 9 mos. and I broke up 3 months ago and it's been really hard. The breakup came out of left field, just when I thought things were awesome between us. I, and everyone else, thought we were awesome together...but apparently at the time, he just didn't want it. His reasoning at first was because I was always late, drove in the left lane, looked up when I was driving and other stupid excuses. I thought it was another woman, but it turned out there wasn't another woman. His real reasons ended up being that he needed to be alone for a while, focus on his career and not on our relationship. He said he just didn't have it in him to give to me at the time, and he knew I needed more. He told me he was very attracted to me and still had feelings for me, but he just needed to be single for a while and not date anyone.

 

After not hearing from him for 2 mos (and missing him like crazy) I've left him totally alone and haven't bothered him at all. I've given him all the space in the world. I really thought he didn't care and I had meant nothing to him.

 

Well, today is my birthday and he emailed me first thing this morning. I was very surprised to hear from him. He told me that he was aware that we hadn't spoken in a couple of months and he just wanted to wish me a happy birthday and happy holidays. He then went on to tell me a little bit about what he's been up to recently and that he had been sick with toncillitis (spelling?). He then told me that he hoped all was going well with me and to take care.

 

I emailed him back, thanking him for his email and told him a bit about what I was up to and then told him best wishes and signed my name.

 

I know I'm reading into it, but I think anyone would if they really loved someone and hadn't heard from them in a while. Does it sound like he was just being nice (though he wasn't nice about the breakup and basically blew me off to an extent)...or does it sound like he may be trying to slowly move back into my life again and was trying to feel me out through an email? I mean, for all he knew, I could have hated him and told him to leave me alone (which is probably why he didnt' call me). I didn't and responded back to him with a nice and friendly email. Any ideas or opinions on what he may be feeling?

[moimeme]

I think he's just being nice. Birthdays are important and it's hard to ignore the birthday of someone you've had a relationship with; it's a good time to drop a 'no hard feelings' type of note their way.

[oogle]

listen, i dont wanna sound too harsh here but if he had feelings for you he wouldnt have been nasty to you.

 

could you and him even have a proper relationship again......honestly, ask yourself could you ever really be secure again or trust him. i.ve been where you are right now,i've held onto the hopes but they are in vain, believe me.

 

move on, and get angry with him cos its the only way you can truely move on.

if you and him are to be friends eventually then do it on your terms and in your own time. but please forget bout a relationship. you can honestly do a lot better!

love yourself and somebody is bound to love you........................