samsungxoxo Posted December 7, 2009 Share Posted December 7, 2009 when it comes to disapproval of one's SO. In my case they were right the way time, he's a waste of time plus he's not coming to visit. He has postponed it again for like the 3rd or 4th time. Was suppose to come by the ending of this year now according to him it's from Jan. to June 2010.. BS.. My parents would say he's only words... words... and words... that he will not come.... Guess what, they were right the whole time... But it's like parents in almost all cases, can see that from miles away if they have true intentions of keeping their promises and if they're wasting your time with words... Link to post Share on other sites
Pizzaman81 Posted December 8, 2009 Share Posted December 8, 2009 when it comes to disapproval of one's SO. In my case they were right the way time, he's a waste of time plus he's not coming to visit. He has postponed it again for like the 3rd or 4th time. Was suppose to come by the ending of this year now according to him it's from Jan. to June 2010.. BS.. My parents would say he's only words... words... and words... that he will not come.... Guess what, they were right the whole time... But it's like parents in almost all cases, can see that from miles away if they have true intentions of keeping their promises and if they're wasting your time with words... My mother's mother cautioned my mother about my father when they were dating. My mother got into a huge fight with them, constantly. She was very much in love. Now their marriage is horrendous, and my mother told me that if her mother were still alive, she would say "sorry to her" but it's "too late, they passed away, and they would never know how happy or miserable I am" After raising a kid for so many years, the parents can see things on the side whereas the kid was too blindly in love to see. It maybe extremely difficult to hear negatives from your parents, but most of the time (within certain boundaries) they would never say or convince you to do anything that was harmful in anyway. They are more sensitive to things. Link to post Share on other sites
TwinkletOes26 Posted December 8, 2009 Share Posted December 8, 2009 Wish i could say this was true in all cases but keep in mind that parents also can say things based on a bias they have. My mother thinks tattoos and peircings are sinful. She also isnt abig fan of interracial dating so yea....sometimes they get it right sometimes they dont. Link to post Share on other sites
koala Posted December 8, 2009 Share Posted December 8, 2009 While parents are right most of the time, they can also be very wrong! They are humans just like the rest of us and can become biased and overprotective. My grandparents did not want my parents to get married. My grandmother took 10 years to accept my mother. My parents have been happily married for 31 years. I don't know any other couple who are like them. In their case, the parents were 100% wrong. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted December 8, 2009 Share Posted December 8, 2009 In your scenario, it doesn't take rocket science to figure out that LDRs rarely work out. Most often, I agree that parents are right, in that they have far more life experience than their children. But... My parents were wrong about the actor I dated last year. Their reasoning was flat out wrong, discriminatory, rather than rational. And all this without meeting him. If they had been rational about it and stated that his lifestyle wasn't compatible to my nature, then I would have agreed. That's just common sense stuff. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted December 8, 2009 Author Share Posted December 8, 2009 My parents were wrong about the actor I dated last year. Their reasoning was flat out wrong, discriminatory, rather than rational. And all this without meeting him. Yes in that case then it's wrong. Like I can't figure out why my mother would get disgusted if I were to one day date a black man. She would be like ''No, not on the door''. With my soon to be ex yes she's right but not sure if she hated a black man just for the race. That I don't see what's the big deal about it. In that case she's like ''any color, race but black''. An ex I dated before was mixed but yeah since the black color didn't seem to be too visible, she was accepting. Link to post Share on other sites
Author samsungxoxo Posted December 8, 2009 Author Share Posted December 8, 2009 While parents are right most of the time, they can also be very wrong! They are humans just like the rest of us and can become biased and overprotective. My grandparents did not want my parents to get married. My grandmother took 10 years to accept my mother. My parents have been happily married for 31 years. I don't know any other couple who are like them. In their case, the parents were 100% wrong. Sorry to hear that. I can imagine what kind of constant struggle it must have been for your parents. It's a terrible position to be on. Not sure if I would stay longer if a man's parents hated me. I think I would leave and find someone else with more acceptable, civilize parents and less hassle (unless there was a kid involve). I hope with the next man I meet, it's peaceful this time and no trouble. I hope too the man's parents are nice to me... Link to post Share on other sites
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