mm's wife posted a picture of them kissing

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green eyed lady-thanks so much--yes i am going crazy wondering---i have said that everything seems so genuine--so great that i almost expect it all to come crashing down-so i do check.

 

I guess i just keep seeing chain after chain o-f relationshiips that didn't come to fruition from affairs--but i guess if my husband can belief that this guy is for real--so should i.

(yes that sounds strange but me and my husband(soon to be ex) talk about him all the time--we both want each other to have loving fulfilling lives and if it can't be with each other than we want each other to have that with others. I know it is an odd situation but now that the affair is out in the open there is no tension--he wants me to be strong-and believes that this person is torn with leaving England to be with me as well as providing properly for his children--and not leaving his wife totally destroyed as she wants their relationship to continue and for him not to leave. she wants her husband mended. Maybe this is a difference between guys and girls with affairs--my husband sees my feelings for someone as proof that the marriage has to end --where as maybe woman want to hold on--his wife compared all of this as more horrible than the death of her father 4 years ago. She has 3 times known of our contact(after we were suppose to be in not contact(her and her husband) and i keep telling him that this is worse than just not admitting his feelings to move on.

He compared it to ripping a bandaid off slowly or just ripping it off quick.

i say the quick way but i do not know her personality. I know that when he initially told her that he wanted to separate that she said --oh "who would want me now at this age--blah blah blah....." and yes that makes me tend to believe self esteem is an issue but than i guess it would be if your husband had an affair and i am a part of that and contributed too.

It is hard when distance is a factor--not like you can just move to the next town together and be connected--there is a lot more planning and loss on his side than mine(like i will still see my kids everyday)--they are younger--his our 16 and 19.