Problem with mother in law

[shailap]

Hi ,

I am from Pune and DIL in traditional Maharashtrian family.

I got married before 25 years. I have 2 sons who are 20 and 18.

For last 25 years i never wore anything other than saree. Never cut my hair or never tied hair in any other hairstyle except braid (except for few days when i was in Mumbai at sisters place).

My living style is very simple as on first day i was informed by my MIL to live simple. (Not to wear anything other than saree).

I take tutions of school students and met their parents daily. When i see them, i feel bad about me. Though all of them wear saree, they do not wear it daily. And i feel bad about me.

Once when i was at sisters place in MUmbai (when i was 37), i changed my way of tieing hair for those 8-10 days. I used clips, rubber band and tried to look different and i liked it, enjoyed it. But one day my SIL(married and elder to me) in Mumbai saw me in different hair style and informed my MIL that i have changed. After returning to PUne, she asked me about it.

Also you know how uncomfortable it is to do all housework in saree and in hot summer its really unbearable.

My husband is also somewhat traditional. But he has seen people in Pune and also he works. But he is emotionally attached to my MIL (his Mom) and doesnt want to interefere in this matter.

Please suggest me something how can i tackle this problem.

 

Regards,

Shaila Patil

[shailap]

Please reply.

[beanzmom]

I know things are different all over the world, and that parents are looked upon differently and their opinions valued in different ways. I'm in the U.S. and here if my Mother In Law told me what to wear, how to wear my hair, or how to act, I'd tell her that she needs to mind her own business. My life, my hair, my business. I would take what she has to heart as a suggestion, but that's it, just a suggestion.

 

I don't know much about your culture, so I can't offer anything but my opinion. And that is to dress and fix your hair the way you and your HUSBAND are comfortable and stop listening to your in laws. If this is your custom to do so, then I can't help you.