Marriage = Hardly any Sex ?

[Mary3]

I am single but quite a few married males that I know, report that the Sex goes down to Zero , Or infrequent once they get Married . Why is that ?

 

So why is it that ( to some ) the sex seems to become non existant ?

Of course I don't speak for everyone. Not all marriages end up like this...

 

To me ML 2 x a day is good

[OpenBook]

Bottom line... they get sick of each other. Familiarity breeds contempt. Human sexuality is driven largely by unfamiliarity - the mysterious unknown. Which is impossible to achieve when you're yoked to somebody else and serving a life sentence with them.

 

JMO.

[Mary3]

Bottom line... they get sick of each other. Familiarity breeds contempt. Human sexuality is driven largely by unfamiliarity - the mysterious unknown. Which is impossible to achieve when you're yoked to somebody else and serving a life sentence with them.

 

JMO.

 

I LOVE this answer , lol...

[Ross PK]

Bottom line... they get sick of each other. Familiarity breeds contempt. Human sexuality is driven largely by unfamiliarity - the mysterious unknown. Which is impossible to achieve when you're yoked to somebody else and serving a life sentence with them.

 

JMO.

 

You never hear about people getting sick of masturbating though, so I'm not sure why it'd be the case with a partner which obviously must be better.

[hurthawk]

I think it has more to do with communication and being on the same page with someone. I'm not married, so I could be way off, but I would think that familiarity wouldn't breed contempt but instead would foster greater love and a connection that actually allows for a more "all encompassing sex life". At least this is how I would hope it would be. As a woman I know that I certainly don't want my sex life to die when I get married. I have several friends that are married and have only said that sex with their spouses has improved as the years go on (on the rare occasion it's talked about). An example from my experience would be a close friend of mine that has been married for 9 years now and she is incredibly happy with her sex life and so is he. They also have a very open relationship with regards to talking to each other about things and not letting little disagreements stand in between them. I should also point out that this is a couple that does things together, activities that foster connection... they hike, ski, bike etc etc. (also they are obviously in shape so therefore I would assume physically attractive to the other). On the opposite end I could see how two people (or just one of them) could let themselves go (physically or mentally) and that would cause a steep decline in physical intimacy. I'm a very visual person and I find that it would be incredibly hard for me to want to sleep with a man who had let himself go. (Keep in mind I also hold the same standard for myself). It really is a case by case basis, you will probably find someone complaining about a non existent sex life rather than someone constantly talking up their amazing sex life. In other words, we focus on the negative because it tends to be what people talk about... but that's just my $.02.

[ADF]

I don't think sex necessarily dies after marriage. It dies after the married couple has kids. The cause? Sheer exhaustion on the part of one or both parents.

[FilthMerchant]

The reason is because humans are not hardwired to breed with another single human for the rest of their life. After a while (3 years, around that) the body decides that this was a viable length of time to have conceived offspring and therefore sexual attraction wanes between the two of them. We can therefore say that sex drive does not disappear completely, but just finds a new target.

 

The same process can be seen in monogamous long-term relationships after about the same amount of time, although sex tends to be at a slightly higher level than marriage because of one reason: only marriage can truly eliminate competition anxiety.