My Ex is getting back with her first ex, who cheated on her?!

[PHMustang2000]

Well I dated this girl for 3 1/2 years and she was my first gf (Only gf for the time being)

While I was dating her she still kept in touch with her ex who is her HS Sweetheart and she broke it off to be with me. Sometime in the middle of our 3 1/2 yrs her ex called her up and told her that he got drunk one night and kissed a girl. This ticked her off and repeated to me over and over, "I will never get back with him after what he did"

 

Well I had to move away so we did break up. I did do a follow up visit and go back into town and check on her but she has been trying to date these other guys but found problems with them before the first date happened. Now she tells me she is going to get back with her ex. Didn't she tell me when we where together that she would never get back with him. My theory is she feels like there is no one left for her since I moved away (and she really wants to be married with me, thats who she really wants to marry) Her ex who cheated on her and stood her up on more than one occasion is happy to be back with her but no they are not taking it slow. He insists they get married As Soon As They Can. I tell her to think about it because the guy cheated and you don't know if he is faithful. While we were dating he purposed to his other gf. So he basically purposes to every girl he dates, pathetic.

 

I told her today if she marries him, on the day they get married our friendship will be over. I would only talk to her on circumstances when she needed me but not just to talk. She says she will miss me and I am a really great friend that she has had and she hasn't had many friends even now just me. I tell her to give it time and see if he really has changed because marriage is a big committment. What do I do? From what you read does it look like this guy won't cheat on her again. If he hurts her in any way I will fly down there and kick his a$$.

[JustLooking123]

She's an adult who is free to do whatever she wants. Let her make her own choices (and make her own mistakes, if that's the case). If you need to cut off contact with her in order to move on, that's okay.

 

Sometime in the middle of our 3 1/2 yrs her ex called her up and told her that he got drunk one night and kissed a girl. This ticked her off and repeated to me over and over, "I will never get back with him after what he did"

 

Uh, why would she even say this while dating you?? To me, that shows that she's always been hung up on this guy and probably has never gotten over him. It also shows that she's kinda thoughtless (at least in this one instance).

[PHMustang2000]

Uh, why would she even say this while dating you?? To me, that shows that she's always been hung up on this guy and probably has never gotten over him. It also shows that she's kinda thoughtless (at least in this one instance).

 

 

While we were dating she always told me what better qualities, I have then her first ex

 

I drive -- the other guy doesn't

I got a education -- the guy wants to stay at Albertsons as a bag boy

 

She always told me when we were together that she would never go back to him because he cheated but now since we are two states apart, she says, " I took him back because I have a good heart" I tell her he will never change and the chances are greater that he will cheat on you again if he did it before and got away with it.